Chris Brown Speaks About The Night He Punched Rihanna In The Face
Chris Brown has a new documentary coming out called Welcome to My Life and in it he speaks about the night he brutally punched his then girlfriend Rihanna in the face with a closed fist.
Let me give you the facts first before I tell you what I think about this shit move. Brown says their relationship went sour after Rihanna accused him of cheating with a mutual friend. While Brown initially denied the affair he then owned up to it and things were never the same again.
“She hated me. After that, I tried everything. She didn’t care, she just didn’t trust me after that. From there, it just went downhill because it would be fights, it would be verbal fights, physical fights as well… I still love Rihanna, but I’m just going to be honest – we would fight each other, she would hit me, I would hit her, but it never was OK. It was always a point to where we talk about it like, “What the fuck are we doing?”
On the night of Clive Davis’ 2009 Grammy party, Brown says the woman he had cheated with approached them at their table. He and Rihanna started fighting as to why she was even there and things escalated pretty quickly after that. Brown goes on to say he let Rihanna look through his phone to show he wasn’t cheating but she spotted a message from the other woman and accused him of lying again.
“She starts going off, she throws the phone…’I hate you.’” She hits me a couple more times. I remember she tried to kick me, but then I really hit her, with a closed fist, I punched her. I busted her lip. “When I saw it, I was in shock. I was like, ‘Fuck’ why the hell did I hit her? From there she just spit in my face, spit blood in my face and it enraged me even more.”
Brown is in effect saying Rihanna started the violence, ‘hitting him and attempting to kick him’ before he punched her in the face.
The 2009 attack left Brown feeling like a “f—king monster” and he says that things really sunk in when he saw the police photo of Rihanna’s bruised face. “I look back at that picture and I’m like, ‘That’s not me, bro,'” he says. “I hate it to this day. That’s going to haunt me forever.”
Following the attack, Brown pled guilty and served five years probation and community service for the assault. During this time many of his fans inexplicably stood by him and some even blamed Rihanna for the incident. I remember reading messages on his Instagram account back then when many female fans were leaving comments like “you can hit me any time Chris and I still love you.” Seriously, I’m not even making this up.
The couple got back together briefly then broke up for good in 2013. But Brown did not change his ways. The singer has since been accused of domestic violence by his ex Karrueche Tran, who obtained a restraining order against him in April.
While there’s no denying the fact that both men and women are capable of domestic violence in the instance of Rihanna there is one clear abuser and that is Brown. The photos of the night show a beat up woman who suffered blows to the face by a much stronger man.
So while Brown may be saying “that wasn’t him” and “he regrets that night” he also says “we would fight each other, she would hit me, I would hit her, but it never was OK. It was always a point to where we talk about it like, “What the fuck are we doing?”
The key word here is WE! Brown doesn’t actually take sole responsibility for being the aggressor in the relationship and with his language is actually victim blaming Rihanna.
Katie Ray-Jones, CEO of the National Domestic Violence Hotline, says that in a violent relationship there is always a primary aggressor. “The images we saw coming out of that instance, clearly you could see a battered woman who was hit very violently,” she says. “When we saw pictures of Chris, we did not see injuries to him. In relationships where there’s violence, men have more capacity to cause physical harm.”
The fact that Brown flippantly says they both used to hit each other, makes it sound like they were both equally to blame. They weren’t!
“Whatever goes wrong in a relationship, no man has a right to hit his partner. We all say and do things we later regret, but domestic violence does not ‘take two,’” domestic abuse charity Refuge CEO Sandra Horley says. “No woman can make a man hit her; violence is a choice he makes and he alone is responsible for it.”
Victims of domestic violence must always know that it is NEVER their fault. There is no way you can do anything that would provoke someone to hit you. It is ALWAYS their fault and this is something that must never be forgotten. Especially in such a high profile case as Rihanna’s. Just because Chris Brown has thousands of adoring (and deluded) fans who continue to justify his actions we can’t forget who the real victim is here. Rihanna. End of story.
If you or someone you know are dealing with domestic violence know your not alone and seek help by calling 13 11 14 or going to the White Ribbon website for more information.