Hilary Duff Says Being A Divorced Parent Sucks Sometimes!
Divorced couples with children know the tug and pull that comes with co-parenting. Holidays have to be organised in advance, special days shared and events like school concerts and sport days juggled.
While some may envy the fact that divorced parents get nights off from their children where they are able to catch up with their partners or friends it’s the difficulty of parenting alone on the days you have your kids that’s the issue.
While I don’t claim to fully understand what being a divorced mum is like I do know how single parenting feels as I have a partner who travels extensively with work which often leaves me home alone with two kids for weeks at a time.
It can be tough to not have another adult in house. Especially during that ‘magical’ time we call the witching hour when kids need to be fed, bathed and put to bed without anyone losing their minds. Being alone means there’s no-one else that has your back when the kids gang up on you, or when they’re throwing a tantrum or even just when homework needs to completed ASAP. Doing it alone, while not impossible, can be difficult.
Single mum Hilary Duff spoke to Redbook for their April issue where she shared her thoughts on co-parenting.
“Some of my friends tell me, ‘God, it must be so nice, you get a break from your kid because you share him.’ I’m divorced, and it sucks,” Duff said. “Well, it did suck for a while; now it’s just normal.”
The actress and her ex, Mike Comrie, finalised their divorce in February of 2014 when their son was 2. The couple have remained extremely close and have joint custody of their son Luca.
Duff also spoke about how her decisions as a mum lead her to experience constant guilt.
“I always feel torn or guilty about something. I’m not working right now, and at first I stressed about that, like, “Oh, I shouldn’t stay still this long.” And that’s ridiculous. I have a child; it’s totally fine to not be slammed all the time. It’s hard to say that you really can have it all. I think you can to a certain degree, but fully loaded, pedal-all-the-way-down is tough. You’re missing out on something, either on the career or on the family. When I’m really busy with work, I feel extremely guilty.”
Ahhh…mummy guilt. Don’t you just love it? Hilary, thank you so much for being honest about your parenting. And yes we agree, aspects of it certainly suck but the good far outweigh the bad, right?!