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James Van Der Beek Shares A Touching Post About Fatherhood!

James Van Der Beek Shares A Touching Post About Fatherhood!

Dawson’s Creek star James Van Der Beek is one celebrity dad who has his priorities straight. Father to five kids, James shows us what it means to truly be a present and honest parent.

James and his wife Kimberly welcomed their fifth child together a few weeks ago and shared the happy news on their Instagram accounts. Baby Gwendolyn was born at home and James shared candid images showing how the birth played out on Instagram. He even included a photo of the placenta sitting in a bowl.

There were some who found the placenta a bit too much but the majority of his fans applauded him for his honesty and realness!

James’ latest social media post is all about fatherhood and it gives dads a reminder that parenting may be a rough gig but to keep pushing through the difficult moments.

“A few things I forgot between babies four and five: Dads, when your newborn has been fed, changed, and is still upset, swaddle them up and hold them. Check in with them. Feel their face on yours. Talk to them. Rub their back, sway gently, hum, make the ‘swishy’ sound in their ear to replicate the sound of Mum’s heartbeat in utero. If they’re still crying and it breaks your heart … that’s fatherhood.”

A few things I forgot between babies four and five: Dads, when your #newborn has been fed, changed, and is still upset, swaddle them up and hold them. Check in with them. Feel their face on yours. Talk to them. Rub their back, sway gently, hum, make the “swishy” sound in their ear to replicate the sound of Mom’s heartbeat in utero. If they’re still crying and it breaks your heart… that’s fatherhood. If you move past heartbreak into exasperation… that’s fatherhood. If they start screaming and you find yourself wanting to say “Oh, C’MON!” out loud… that’s fatherhood. If you feel helpless and inadequate and like you’re staring at a final exam full of questions you couldn’t possibly have known to study for… that’s fatherhood. And if you push through that… become more present than you’ve ever been, discover instincts you never knew you had, and summon up more love and patience than you’ve maybe ever shown anybody… and they either take it, or get tired, or finally work out that fart that was bothering them and fall asleep on your chest… and you suddenly feel like you beat the system, got nominated for a Nobel Prize and got told “I love you” by the first girl you ever loved… THAT’s fatherhood. Welcome… Glad you’re here. 💙

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“If you move past heartbreak into exasperation … that’s fatherhood. If they start screaming and you find yourself wanting to say “Oh, C’MON!” out loud … that’s fatherhood. If you feel helpless and inadequate and like you’re staring at a final exam full of questions you couldn’t possibly have known to study for … that’s fatherhood.”

The Dawson’s Creek star was quick to point out that the payoff for being present is unbeatable.

“And if you push through that … become more present than you’ve ever been, discover instincts you never knew you had, and summon up more love and patience than you’ve maybe ever shown anybody … and they either take it, or get tired, or finally work out that fart that was bothering them and fall asleep on your chest … and you suddenly feel like you beat the system, got nominated for a Nobel Prize and got told ‘I love you’ by the first girl you ever loved … THAT’s fatherhood. Welcome … Glad you’re here.”

Having a celebrity dad speak out on fatherhood in such a public way is a huge deal. It normalises behaviours and feelings that new (and not so new) parents may have. It lets us know that it’s okay to not always feel ‘shiny and happy’ when our kids our born. That sometimes we’ll be angry and frustrated because we haven’t slept in months but in the long run if we hang in there the pros will far outweigh the cons!

How refreshing to hear that even for an experienced dad like James, parenting can sometimes get the better of you. His post may be just the motivation some men need to keep going!

Images: Instagram

 

Chrystal Lovevintage

Chrystal Lovevintage

Chrystal is a writer and blogger who loves nothing more than watching back to back episodes of crime shows. Should she ever find herself needing to cover up a crime, she'll know exactly what to do! Her dream is to one day live in Palm Springs where she can do her writing poolside while drinking endless gin and tonics. Mum to the cutest twin boys in the world, she loves nothing more than the sound of their laughter (usually heard when they're conspiring against her). Entertainment writer and pop culture junkie, she will be bringing you all the celebrity gossip and news that your brain can handle. You can follow her blog at https://lovechrystal.com.au and on Instagram at Chrystalovevintage

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