Lauren Brant Shares Her Thoughts on Why Date Nights Are Important for Parents
Everything changes when you become parents. You have this gorgeous new human that consumes most of your waking thoughts, time, love and, if we’re being honest, money. Your whole outlook shifts and it’s easy to forget each other in this crazy new reality that you’ve found yourselves in.
Lauren Brant has shared her story on Kidspot, opening up about how she and ex-AFL footballer Barry Hall have rediscovered their relationship after a date night. The 28-year-old underlines the importance of regularly scheduling a night off to reconnect with your partner as a couple, away from your children.
The former Hi-5 entertainer and Hall share a 12 week old son, Miller, and have been together since they met during filming I’m a Celebrity…Get Me Out of Here! in 2015.
Lauren explains the difficulties she has keeping up with the activities she and Barry used to do before their son arrived as stuff like hot coffees, sit down meals, gym dates and long conversations became a thing of the past.
“I know these are changes that all parents experience and really we just adapt and deal with it, but one thing I am not willing to accept is a distance between Barry and I,” she wrote.
“We were at breakfast the other morning and I looked at Barry and said: “I miss you. I see you every day, I sleep next to you every night, I kiss you and tell you I love you but … I miss you.” He looked back at me and said: “I feel exactly the same way.”
“So we decided it was time for our first ‘date night.’
“We realised that individually, we had lost a little bit of ourselves in amongst the crazy eight weeks of negotiating life with a child.”
Lauren and Barry quickly realised the value of taking the time to reconnect with each other separately from their newborn. And once they had arranged for her mother to babysit Miller, chosen a restaurant and dressed up for their occasion, they found what they were missing.
“We recognised that we were deprived of each other, we discussed the fact that all our attention had moved from us to our son, that although we loved one another just as much — if not even more, we had not found the time to show it due to looking after bub and/or being tired.
“From feeling disconnected and overwhelmed — to full of butterflies and completely present, I have to say that, as parents, having ‘date nights’ is so important. Those few hours to ourselves has set us back on track as individuals, a couple and parents.”
She’s absolutely right. It’s very important to reconnect with our partners to keep the fires burning. Date nights don’t need to be an expensive event either. You don’t even need to ship the kids off to the in-laws – a home cooked romantic meal and a nice bottle of wine after their bedtime would work nicely too.
Make taking the time to reconnect a priority, and plan a date night!
Source: Instagram/Lauren Brant