Real Housewives star Bethenny Frankel is known for her brash and upfront personality. She is not one to shy away from confrontation and will always tell it how it is- no matter what the consequences may be. But behind the super confident exterior lies a woman who has endured the same pain and heartbreak of a miscarriage like so many others have.
Bethenny Frankel says she had no idea just how many women had been through the trauma of a miscarriage until she had hers and started to discuss it with her friends.
The Skinny Girl mogul has given an emotional interview where she talks about the heartbreak of suffering a miscarriage before separating from her now estranged husband Jason Hoppy .
“I never knew how common miscarriages are, and how many women have them and just don’t say anything about it,” she said. “I definitely felt like I went through that alone, that was definitely a negative time in my house.”
The 45 year old wasn’t ready to talk about it at the time because her life already had a lot of drama going on. “Based on things that were going on in my personal life and my marriage, I think that later, I sort of just marketed to myself as that was not meant to be,” the star says. “Because it would have made things even more difficult than they already were. …It just wasn’t, it wasn’t the time.”
Bethenny had daughter Brynn in May 2010 whom she shares custody of with her ex-husband Jason.
On the issue of talking about miscarriage, Bethenny said she felt people weren’t really discussing such personal issues back then.
“People will talk about money. People will talk on TV about their sex life, they’ll talk about infidelity, everything. People don’t talk about female issues,” she explains. “Women sort of are shameful, or hide things. People don’t talk about female medical issues to each other a lot.”
“I know a lot of people, and I’ve been through a lot, and it’s wild that I really don’t know anybody who’d gone through this,” she says.
Bethenny shares her health issues on an upcoming episode of Real Housewives where she reveals she suffers from endometriosis and acknowledges that may have been a contributing factor to her previous miscarriage. She recently underwent a myomectomy for a number of large fibroids she had which were causing her to belled heavily.
She’s been separated from Jason since 2012 and is now in a relationship with New York City banker Dennis Shields. “My personal life is really great. I’m really, really happy right now,” she admitted. “Right now I’m experiencing so much happiness in so many different ways, in so many different areas of my life. I do feel like I have a really great balance and I’m really happy.”
On marriage she says: “I said I would never get married, and I said I would never get legally married again. I don’t like the idea of a piece of paper being involved in a marriage. I don’t like the idea of a prenup. Ironically, no one ever needed one more than I did,” she explains. “I don’t like the idea of a document, because I do so many contracts, but I have always believed in love. I am a hopeless romantic and I’ve said in my book — I suck at relationships.”
Bethenny is optimistic that her quest for love will see her find her happily ever after. “People used to think I suck at business and I did and I eventually figured out how to not suck at business,” she says. “So, I think that one of these days I will definitely be able to say that I don’t suck at relationships.”
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