TV Presenter Edwina Bartholomew Says The Secret To Her Happy Relationship Is Separate Bedrooms!
When embarking on a new relationship we’re always careful to not reveal too much all at once. We want to keep a certain mystique. A bit of distance. We close doors when we use the bathroom. We don’t allow our partners to watch us pluck our chin hairs. And we keep our reality TV addiction to ourselves.
After a bit of time, the walls start to come down. We no longer care about our morning breath. We’re happy to have a conversation while on the toilet. And heck, we’re open to doing any type of beauty maintenance in front of them- wax, pluck, pop whatever!
But is this when things start to go wrong? Is familiarity the curse of relationships? Is knowing TOO much about the other person a bad thing? Is being too comfortable with each other Uncomfortable? I had a friend who once called things off with a guy because he bought her some chocolate to eat while she was in the shower. It was a very new relationship and boundaries were crossed way, way too soon! Besides- everyone knows the shower is for drinking beer- not eating chocolate!
Sunrise presenter Edwina Bartholomew may have stumbled onto the secret of relationship longevity as she revealed the unconventional way she’s managed to keep the spark alive with long-term boyfriend Neil Varcoe.
The couple, who have been together for 6 years, sleep in separate bedrooms.
“Probably the secret to our relationship is we sleep apart. During the week, he sleeps in one room, I sleep in the other,” Bartholomew said during an interview.
“For the first two years I would wake him up every morning at 3am and let’s be honest, nothing exciting is happening between a couple at 3am when one is going to work and one person is trying to sleep,” the 33 year old added.
“So we just kind of decided that that was the best solution for us to be able to function as a couple because we just stared to resent each other in terms of he could just never go back to sleep, we were both tired and then it was just a total disaster.
So that’s been one of the secrets for us. I guess date night comes on the weekends when we can actually spend time together and sleep in the same bed. That sounds more racy than it was intended to be.”
“He’s just amazingly patient. The most patient, the most wonderful person I know. He is so understanding of me needing to be in 50 places at once, of not always putting family and our relationship first.”
The presenter’s role on Sunrise sees her travelling quite a lot and while the time they spend apart is quite difficult it’s also brought them closer.
“I can honestly say that time apart just made us so much better. The time that we had, it stopped being about who took out the garbage, or who did or didn’t do the washing. It was just about spending those quality weekends having quality time together. So that really changed things for us,” she said.
Whether or not the couple would have chosen to sleep in separate rooms if Bartholomew didn’t have to get up at such an ungodly hour is unknown, but we do know the arrangement is working for them now!