Mum Says Guests Need To Stick To Registry Gifts Only Or Provide Receipts For Exchange
Mum Says Guests Need To Stick To Registry Gifts Only Or Provide Receipts For Exchange
When choosing a gift for a baby shower do you stick to the registry or choose your own? One mum says it’s selfish of guests to stray from the list provided as that means the parents will end up with items they don’t want or will have to return. What do you think?
The anonymous mum recently wrote to the website “Mamas Uncut” asking for advice about what to do with guests who bought gifts that were not on her baby shower registry.
“Am I wrong for feeling that if people don’t buy off of the registry for the baby shower that I made specifically of things my baby and I will NEED and guest choose to buy other things that we didn’t ask for, we should receive receipts so we can return the items we don’t need and get what we actually need and asked for in the first place,” she asked.
The mum went on to say that the whole point of a registry was to ensure they received exactly what they asked for and needed. Not some random gifts other people thought they might like.
“I want the bottles I asked for that will feed my baby daily. I don’t want those onesies you thought were so cute but may not be in my taste for what I feel comfortable with my child wearing. I want the crib mattress that I chose that my baby will sleep on every night (hopefully),” she said.
“I don’t want to sound ungrateful, but I personally feel that baby showers are to benefit the mother and father by saving them money in the long run, correct? But if no one is buying what the mother and father need off of the registry and then the mother and father have to go buy it themselves anyway, it defeats the purpose of the baby shower, to begin with.”
Commenters did not agree.
“Baby showers are not gift grabs. No one is obligated to buy your kid crap. They are bringing you a gift You are wrong,” one person said.
“You are supposed to take what you get and appreciate it. Its the thought that counts,” another added.
“Personally, I think this is a terrible attitude to have. Many times people are buying you things that they found extremely useful with their newborns, and products that they couldn’t have done without and think you’ll find useful,” said one mum.”I know when I had my daughter much of what I’d registered for I didn’t end up using or needing as much as I thought I would, but products I hadn’t registered for that people got me came in extremely useful.”
What do you think? Should gift registries be compulsory? That way parents don’t receive unnecessary gifts or should gift giving be left up to the guest to decide?