Let’s be honest—between work, kids, and the never-ending laundry pile, ‘date night’ often doesn’t get much more exciting than passing out on the couch mid-Netflix episode. If you’d love to spend more quality time reconnecting with your partner but getting a babysitter is too hard, or too expensive, we may have the answer! Just because you can’t always get out doesn’t mean you can’t get it on.

A night at home can be just as exciting as dinner and a movie (actually, way more exciting, if you do it right). So, put the kids to bed early (easier said than done, we know), grab a glass of wine and try one, or a combination of these fun ways to reconnect with your partner.

Set the Mood

Setting the mood is more important than you might think. If your living room still looks like a toy store exploded, it’ll be hard to relax because your brain will stay in ‘parent mode’ and find it hard to shift into ‘date night mode.’ Grab a basket, throw all the toys in and hide them somewhere out of sight. Dim the lights, light some candles and put on some sultry tunes.

Game Night…But Make It Spicy

Games aren’t just for family night. In fact, they can be pretty sexy if you use your imagination!

• Try a couples’ question game to spark deep or spicy conversations.
• Play a card game with a sexy twist.
• If you really want to raise the stakes, make it a strip version of whatever game you choose. Trust me, it’s way more fun than arguing over fake Monopoly money!

Takeaway & Toys

Take the night off from cooking and order in your favourite meal. While you’re at it, why not also order something fun for dessert—like a brand-new sex toy?

Whether it’s your first foray into toys or you have quite the collection already, trying something new together can be a game-changer. And don’t worry, there’s something for every comfort level—from a little buzz to the wildest ride of your life!

Massage

We’re just going to come out and say it—parenting can get pretty stressful! What better way to help each other unwind by kicking off your clothes and taking it in turns to give each other a sensual massage? Grab some warm, scented oil, dim the lights, and take your time. Slow, teasing touches can take a casual back rub to the next level and get you in the mood for intimacy.

Bonus points if you incorporate edible massage oil!

Dance Like Nobody’s Watching

How underrated is slow dancing in your living room? Put on a song that brings back memories (maybe your wedding song, or just something with sexy vibes), grab your partner, and just move together. Even if you’re just swaying back and forth, the simple act of holding each other without distractions can feel incredibly intimate.

And hey, if the dance floor moves to the bedroom? Even better.

Write a Love Letter (or Confess a Fantasy!)

Confession letters aren’t just for MAFS contestants! Set a task for each other e.g. tell each other 3 things you love about them or use your writing time to confess a sexy secret or a raunchy fantasy. When you’ve finished swap letters – no talking – just reading and reacting!

Role Play

Who says role-playing has to be awkward? Pick a fun scenario, set some ground rules and fully commit. Maybe you’re two strangers meeting at a bar, or maybe one of you needs ‘detention’ from a strict teacher. Whatever it is, lean into it and have fun!

The Surprise Reveal

When was the last time you slipped into some sexy lingerie and surprised your partner? Whether it’s lace, satin, or something barely there, lingerie isn’t just about looking good—it’s about feeling irresistible.

Plus, your partner gets the pleasure of unwrapping you later!

At the end of the day, date night doesn’t have to be about fancy dinners or elaborate plans—it’s about making time for each other. Even a simple night at home can feel special if you’re intentional about reconnecting.

So, next time you’re tempted to just collapse on the couch and scroll through your phones, try one of these ideas instead. Your relationship (and your sex life) will thank you.

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