Generic selectors
Exact matches only
Search in title
Search in content
Search in posts
Search in pages

“I Tricked My Husband’s Friend into Giving Her Baby a ‘Unique’ Name, and I Don’t Regret It”

Look, we know that no one owns a name, and if a friend loves a name that you have or plan to name your child, there isn’t a whole lot you can do about them also using it. You can either take it as a compliment, or quietly seethe about it for all eternity. But, what do you do when you have a hunch that someone keeps pestering you to find out the name of your unborn child, just so that they can give it to their child before you? Well, if this woman’s story is anything to go by, you throw them a red herring and then sit back and watch the fuckery infold!

All names changed to protect the guilty.

My husband is not, and will never be, romantically attracted to his bff. He loves her like a sister. However, she quite often gives of a vibe that she is interested.

She got pregnant just before we did. Her husband is a good guy and he will give her almost anything.

We were discussing baby names and I said we had a list we were narrowing down. She wanted the list. I said no. This went on for months. I finally just said she could pick any name she wanted and I promised not to give our child the same name.

This stopped her for a bit. Then she came back and asked me for just the most likely candidate.

I said my husband wanted to name our son after his friend from college who passed away. His name was something that Key and Peele would make fun of. Think De’Lonquius.

It was a joke and I didn’t think she would take me seriously until she introduced us to her son DeLonquious. No apostrophe.

My husband commented that it reminded him of his buddy. She seemed happy. Until our son Daniel Alden was born.

She asked if any of the other names were less boring and we told her that we were always going to name him after one of my grandfathers. We just couldn’t decide which would be the middle name and which the first.

She went a little nuts and started yelling that I tricked her into giving her very white son a very stereotypically African American name.


My husband asked what she meant. So I was honest and I said that I was joking and picked a name I always thought was neat but not for me.

My husband thinks I was a jerk to fuck around with his friend but he is more upset with her that she would try to steal a baby name.

Her husband is now also saying I’m a dick for getting her to name his son that. I said they could just call him Del.

Can you believe that someone would be so calculated…and stupid, all at the same time?

Commenters were quick to congratulate her for the way she had dealt with her husband’s friend, pointing out that the other woman had nobody to blame except herself.

NTA It’s her own fault for tying to steal your baby name and if her husband is so angry about the name why did he agree to letting her call the baby that name 😂 (ArticleNo8985)


You didn’t “get” her to do anything. She preyed on you for months and she had already decided she wanted to grab the name before you named your child. You could have told her your child was going to be called Cæsar Pharaoh Napoleon and she’d have grabbed that, too… 🙄 What an idiot. She is the AH. (Individual_You_6586)


NTA. If his BFF wasn’t being a sneaky asshole, your joke would’ve affected nothing. But no, she decided she wanted to steal the name. Well played, well played. (CrabbiestAsp)

However, some people thought that the friend’s obvious obsession with the husband was weird, and needed to be addressed.

Apart from the fact that that “friendship” you are not worried about actually sounds really disturbing, this is fucking hilarious, good game, well played. Not the asshole by a long shot.

Her husband should open his eyes, but so does yours tbf, I think deep down you know she has an eye out for your husband. She’s literally quite obsessed, like in a mentally disturbing kind of way.

You did the right thing, she did the wrong thing and punished herself with it. You reap what you sow lol. (SoUthinkUcanRens)


NTA but frankly the way your husband interacts with his “bff” is super sketchy. Even though somehow you are so confident he would never be interested in this woman romantically, the fact he allows her to behave this way is still completely unacceptable. (Winternin)

NTA. I want to commend you on your vastly superior game play! She’s salty you outsmarted her, and quite frankly her obsession with you/your husband is creepy. (Rawrsome_Mommy)

Others questioned why the husband would be mad at her at all, considering it was the friend who had acted badly.

Does this woman have boobs of champagne? Why are all the men in her life (sorry, but that includes your man) giving you responsibility for her malicious behavior and idiotic choices? Absolutely NTA and I suggest you rip your husband a new one for even beginning to think to dare to suggest that you are in any way in the wrong here after the way you have been treated. (Salamanderonthefarm)

What do you think? Did the ‘friend’ get what she deserved, or did OP take things too far?

Want to get top trending news, recipes, giveaways and the hottest deals delivered straight to your inbox once a week?

* Indicates required

Email Format:



Jolene enjoys writing, sharing and connecting with other like-minded women online – it also gives her the perfect excuse to ignore Mount-Washmore until it threatens to bury her family in an avalanche of Skylander T-shirts and Frozen Pyjama pants. (No one ever knows where the matching top is!) Likes: Reading, cooking, sketching, dancing (preferably with a Sav Blanc in one hand), social media, and sitting down on a toilet seat that one of her children hasn’t dripped, splashed or sprayed on. Dislikes: Writing pretentious crap about herself in online bio’s and refereeing arguments amongst her offspring.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

For security, use of Google's reCAPTCHA service is required which is subject to the Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Use.

I agree to these terms.