Grandmother ‘Retires’ From Taking Care of Her Grandkids, Leaving Her Pregnant Daughter Angry and Upset
Grandmother ‘Retires’ From Taking Care of Her Grandkids, Leaving Her Pregnant Daughter Angry and Upset
A doting grandmother has decided to call it a day and move to a lovely new home with warmer weather and a whole new relaxing outlook on life. She has raised her children and grandchildren and is dreaming of taking some time to look after herself and put herself first.
The only issue with her wonderful-sounding retirement plans is her pregnant daughter, who is upset and angry that her mother has chosen to retire her childrearing services at a most inopportune time (for her).
Seeking support online, the grandmother explained how she raised her grandson after her daughter gave birth to him at 16. While she has no regrets about being so hands-on with her eldest grandson, now that her daughter has married and is having more children, she feels it is time for her to step up and be a mum.
“The issue is, our daughter had a baby two years ago and is now pregnant again. My daughter says we shouldn’t move because she may need our help,” the grandmother explained. She said that her daughter had quit her job to become a stay-at-home mum with her two little ones.
“I said while her father is retiring from work, I’m retiring from childcare. I want to be the grandmother that sees her grandbabies and spoils them but is not basically raising them. She got offended and said that this is just “what grandmothers do!”
“I said not all grandmothers. My daughter and her husband say that I make it sound like caring for my grandson was a chore.”
Well, yes. Raising children is not all sunshine and daisies, as it sounds like the daughter is starting to realise.
That’s not to say that we don’t cherish the times we spend with our children, but yeah, it is a bit of a chore. Especially when they are not our own responsibility!
Any help you get from grandparents, friends or other family members is a favour and a blessing, not a requirement or a guarantee. The only person who owes this woman help raising her children is the person who helped make them.
Nanna’s retirement plans sound heavenly. We hope she enjoys herself guilt-free.
Source: Reddit/ AITA
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I think the daughter is simply taking advantage of Grandma who with her husband should move now if they want to.
Grandma has basically raised her grandson. Maybe the daughter expects she to partly raise any more children she has. Depending where they live they could place the 2 y.o. in childcare for a day or 2 a week. The child would probably benefit from it. I makes you wonder how much time the daughter spends with her children apart from meals and laundry. I wouldn’t be surprised if your grandson does more than she does or soon will.
They need to move now and enjoy their new life while they are physically able to make the move which can be a strain just packing up. They may need to decide what they will save and move with them, and how to recycle what they don’t need. That in itself can be very stressful.