Man Charges His Girlfriend a Nightly Rate for Staying Over in His Apartment
A man has come under fire for charging his girlfriend $24 per night to sleep over at his apartment, claiming that his utility bills are going up and that she should be paying her share.
Instead of enjoying the time spent with his significant other, the man made it clear that his girlfriend needs to contribute financially when she sleeps over, saying that he doesn’t want his girlfriend to get the idea that he will pay her way in life.
It was only after her friends told her that he was being
a complete douche unreasonable that he paused to question if charging a nightly rate was, in fact, the right thing to do.
He then took to Reddit’s Am I The Asshole sub to get a vibe check.
I (28M) have been with my girlfriend (22F) for about a year now and things have been going really well up until recently. We live in separate apartments and were spending about one night a week together at my place, but recently it has turned into three or four nights a week.
Now, don’t get me wrong… I love having my girlfriend sleepover and I could even see us living together one day… However, when I asked her to start paying $24 each night she stays over, she got really upset. I explained that all of my utility bills have gone up significantly since she started staying over more and that $24 for one night in an $1800/mo apartment is a great deal. Heck, I wish I got to live in my apartment for that little.
Anyway, her and her friends think I’m being unreasonable and her friends are telling her to dump me. I really love her and don’t want to lose her, but I’m afraid of ending up in a relationship where bills aren’t split equally and I don’t want to be with someone who just sees me as a meal ticket. I think it’s reasonable to ask her to help pay for things now that she’s spending more time at my place, but maybe I’m wrong… AITA?
Dude, there are ways to go about this, and charging a fee is not the right way. Go halves on the shopping bills, split the bill at restaurants or set up an “I pay this time, you pay next time” arrangement, or heck, why not just have a conversation like literally every other human does about how your finances will work while living apart but in a serious relationship? Anything but billing her for the pleasure of spending the night with you!
Reddit universally agreed.
“Unless she moves in, she doesn’t owe you rent. You are hosting her as someone you want to spend time with,” explained one poster. “Even things out by staying at her place some nights if it bothers you that much.”
“You eat the costs of having her stay at your place in return for her company, affection, time, love, sex and whatever else. You are choosing to be with her and unless you want to move in together, suck it up. Good luck finding any girl that would be cool with how you are treating her in this situation bro,” added another.
Honestly, the mind boggles.
Source: Reddit/AmItheAsshole and Giphy