Are You Still A Feminist If You Make Your Husband A Sandwich For His Lunch?
A stay at home mum from Sydney thought she was asking a simple question recently by requesting some lunch ideas for her husband on a Facebook page.
Her request went like this – “I would love to hear what other mums make their hubbies for lunch and snacks throughout the workday. We are getting over sandwiches…”
Simple enough, right? Wrong! While a few women wrote back with legitimate responses offering fabulous lunch ideas others seemed highly offended by the fact a woman was making her husband lunch.
The majority of these women said things like “my husband makes his own lunch” while others took to exerting their feminist ideals and basically shamed this poor woman for choosing to do something as simple as make a sandwich.
Here are some of the comments left under her request:
“I am a stay at home MOTHER and I’m not my husband’s mother.”
“I was married for twenty years and my favourite packed lunch for my husband was called a Get it Yourself with a side order of I’m not your mother.”
“My husband can make his own damn lunch.”
“Our advice is to stop making his lunches.”
The mum responded to the haters with- “You should be ashamed of yourselves. You have no idea what my husband does… the least I can do is make him a bloody sandwich.”
You tell them sister! There is nothing wrong with doing things for your husband. In fact I would worry if you didn’t. You see being in a relationship means doing things for each other. Sometimes you’ll take part in traditional gender set tasks such as cooking or ironing and sometimes you may whip out the mower and help with the gardening. It’s called teamwork.
Why is it, that the moment a woman admits to doing a stereotypically female job like making her man lunch or ironing his shirts the superior feminists start scoffing and saying things like “Let him do his own bloody ironing?!”
Seriously! As women we are damned if we do and damned if we don’t. What’s wrong with making sure your partner has dinner on the table when he gets home? Or that his clothes are washed and ironed ready for work? As long are you are happy doing it and feel appreciated then more power to you!
The woman’s response to the hateful comments is very telling. She says “you have no idea what my husband does. The least I can do is make him a sandwich.” Clearly she is in a relationship where she feels valued and enjoys looking after her partner. For all we know her husband may be in charge of cooking dinner or doing the ironing. We don’t know! So why do feel the need to judge a woman for doing what feels right for her?
Move on judgey mums! Can we please just support each other and respect the fact that we all lead different yet equally satisfying lives? And hell yes- we can still call ourselves damn feminists while making a cheese and avocado sandwich for our partners!