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Mum Turns Away Child From Daughter’s Birthday Party With Zero Regrets

Mum Turns Away Child From Daughter’s Birthday Party With Zero Regrets


A mum says her child’s party is not a daycare centre, which is why she had no qualms in turning away a child that wasn’t invited. Do you think she was right in doing so?

We’ve all encountered those uncomfortable situations where a child arrives at a birthday party without an invitation, leaving both hosts and parents uncertain about how to handle the situation gracefully.

The common scenario involves a child being brought along by their parent or guardian, often as a “plus one,” with the assumption that it’s acceptable without prior consent from the party host. Recently, a similar incident occurred at a 10-year-old’s birthday celebration, and the host’s mother took to a popular online forum to share her perspective.

The mother, who herself is a parent of three, began by acknowledging the shared experience of attending various birthday parties and witnessing parents who drop off their uninvited children, often without considering that not all the children present were on the guest list. She noted the presence of these unexpected guests creates a somewhat awkward situation, especially when multiple parents do the same. While understanding that saying no to a child is challenging, she emphasised the need for communication and consideration in such cases.

“I am a mother-of-three and as with most parents I’m sure, you’ve attended many birthday parties and had the misfortune of seeing that one parent who always drops their kids off and leaves without considering that not all the children were invited,” she begins.

“Sometimes more than one parent does this and honestly, I think it’s selfish. If it had been prearranged with the hosting family then sure all is well but oftentimes it’s not. Who would say no to a child? After all its not their fault.”

The mother explained that within her parenting circle at school, her stance against this behavior was well known. She found it disheartening that this practice could lead to an uncomfortable situation for the uninvited child, who might be in a different age group and lacking friends at the event. Moreover, it places an additional burden on the host, who has to find ways to include the uninvited child while adhering to the budget.

She expressed a willingness to be understanding if the uninvited attendance was due to an emergency situation, as long as there was an explanation. However, she took issue with parents who disregard arrangements and show no regard for the host’s plans.

The mother’s concern turned personal when it came to her own daughter’s 10th birthday celebration. The event was held at a craft shop and was designed to be an intimate and private gathering. Each invited child was meant to receive a pre-selected crafting pack for the activity. The event was structured as a pre-paid, pay-per-child arrangement, and any additional children attending would not have their own crafting kit.

The invitation clearly outlined this setup, but on the day of the event, one parent attempted to bring both an invited child and an uninvited child along. Despite being told that the uninvited child could not participate due to the pre-paid nature of the event and limited crafting supplies, the situation escalated. The uninvited child had a tantrum, and their parent blamed the host for not accommodating them.

The host held her ground, recognising that it wouldn’t have been fair to the invited children to share resources with an uninvited guest, especially in a pay-per-child setup. The parent who tried to bring the uninvited child eventually left with both children, which frustrated the host as she had already paid for the attendance of the invited child.

The mum says: “But I feel teaching my children the value of your word and sticking to it is more important than sparing the feelings of a child and parent who should know better.”

Support for the host’s stance emerged within the parenting community. Many agreed that inviting a child to a party doesn’t imply being responsible for babysitting their entire family. Some pointed out that communication should have taken place before bringing an extra child, and the fact that it didn’t suggests an awareness of the wrongdoing.

While most agreed with the host, a couple of individuals believed she might have been too strict. They suggested that allowing the uninvited child to share resources could have been a compromise. Despite differing opinions, the host stood firm in her belief that teaching her children the importance of keeping their word and honoring commitments outweighed sparing the feelings of a child and parent who should have known better.

The consensus was that hosting a child’s birthday party does not equate to operating a daycare service, emphasising the significance of open communication and mutual respect among parents in such situations.

What do you think?


Images: Pixabay

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Chrystal Lovevintage

Chrystal Lovevintage

Chrystal is a writer and blogger who loves nothing more than watching back to back episodes of crime shows. Should she ever find herself needing to cover up a crime, she'll know exactly what to do! Her dream is to one day live in Palm Springs where she can do her writing poolside while drinking endless gin and tonics. Mum to the cutest twin boys in the world, she loves nothing more than the sound of their laughter (usually heard when they're conspiring against her). Entertainment writer and pop culture junkie, she will be bringing you all the celebrity gossip and news that your brain can handle. You can follow her blog at and on Instagram at Chrystalovevintage

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