Whilst supermarkets and retail stores stock their shelves with ‘best mum ever’ merchandise in the lead up to Mother’s Day, the answer to what mums really want is much simpler. Of course, a bunch of flowers or a box of chocolates are always gratefully received, but what most of us would really love is to feel appreciated, to rest, and to have a break from the unrelenting mental load of being a mum.

Take a look at what these mums over on Reddit had to say about what they really want for Mother’s Day, and see how many resonate with you!

Just a day where I get home from work, they’ve done their chores and they aren’t bickering over nothing.

It’s not a lot, really… (BlueMaboo)

I’d really just be excited to get uninterrupted sleep for a night. (AbJ1622)

A clean house, a long nap, and to not have to see my mother-in-law this year. It always turns into her day but hi, I’m a mom too. (Gingerpants1517)

I want to go to the park with my husband and son. Maybe go out for lunch somewhere together. And I don’t want to be the one to have to initiate things we do together as a family. (GarnettGreen)

After several years of telling my husband I didn’t care what we did as long as I didn’t have to clean the house in advance, plan it, or help clean up—and that never happening—last year I booked a spa appointment from breakfast to right before lunch. Texted my husband and said I was busy from 8am-11am and “where should I meet you and the kids for lunch?” It was perfect and I’m repeating this year. (BeBubbly)

A day off. But a proper day off, where they actually take care of everything I do, so it’s not just do nothing on mothers day do twice as much to catch up the day after. (kayno-way)

Brand new mom (7 weeks) and I would love a big dinner and dessert because I’ve been eating like crap and haven’t been able to really cook while caring for the baby. I’d also like to take a long bath and maybe get a pedicure. (mamitaveneno)

Gift voucher for a massage, a clean house and the lawns mowed. And a charcuterie board and a bottle of paired white wine all to myself. (twilexis)

An hour or two of total and complete silence. (RedDeadRedditGirl)

Not to be needed for just a day. I took a trip by myself a couple of years ago and the absolute best part was not being needed by anyone.

I could just relax without worrying about when my relaxation would be interrupted by my husband and kid coming home and needing help with stuff or attention.

Don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with them and shower them with attention and cuddles, but I really miss having uninterrupted me time without having to worry about getting texts asking me where something is or if we have milk or whatever or watching the clock wondering how much time I have left. (ZoraksGirlfriend)

A professional housecleaning service to come and clean my house. I honestly think most moms would love this. (AtThisMomentTheSky)

To feel like I’m appreciated! Maybe a simple thank you for always doing this… thank you for being there this year when this happened ect. Gift wise I’d rather spend time together doing something we all enjoy as a family like a picnic. Simple but meaning full.

PLEASE NO MORE MUGS! (I have 8!) (deleted)

A clean house, a large iced coffee delivered to me from my favorite coffee place, delicious food I don’t have to make and no fighting or being pestered for a whole day. (deleted)

A day alone. A whole day. To sleep in. To shower as long as I want. To nap. To drink my tea and coffee HOT. To go to the bathroom uninterrupted. To nap again. To peruse through the shopping centre at my own leisure. To not be bombarded with a million questions (majority of which are “Why?”).

I love my kids. But fuck I would love just one day off. (deleted)

I wanna go to Target alone and get Starbucks and live my best basic bitch life for two hours.

Also, I wanna bang my hot husband. He’s the reason I’m a mama. (whtgrixtrm13)

I want to spend the day with my husband and kids but I don’t want to be responsible for anything. I want to make zero decisions, change zero diapers, fill zero bottles. Don’t ask me if you think it’s time for baby to nap, don’t ask me what we should do for dinner, don’t ask me what snacks we should bring. I want to expend zero mental energy. (cssmit)

My son, daughter and son-in-law spending an afternoon with me in the kitchen, playing music, talking preparing a meal together then sitting down and eating together. That is my idea of heaven. (trezebees)

What I want is my husband not to ask me what I want. I want him to just figure something out with the kids. However I do LOVE when they bring me little art work they be made at school or on their own. I save each one. That makes me so happy. This mothers day I just want a pedicure and a margarita at our favorite Mexican place. That sounds so good right now. (manateeFlamingo)

To sleep. Take a bubble bath. Get new colouring books and eat junk food all day. (naniminna)

What do you want for Mother’s Day this year?