The Caterpillar – A Story About Depression.

I recently read a most honest account from a blogger I followΒ who felt that it was all getting too much. With a toddler and a new baby things were not all sunshine and rainbows like people thought. She was struggling and wanted people to know.
You see, I think weβve reached a stage with technology where it may in fact become our demise. I donβt mean that to sound all dramatic and dooms day-ish, what I want to say is maybe it is all too much! Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest are all new social media avenues where we can share and connect. And donβt get me wrong, Iβm as much of a social media whore as the next person, but I canβt help but wonder if itβs sending us mixed messages. The fact is social media is filled with people looking fabulous, doing amazing things, travelling to wonderful locations, getting married and having babies. We very rarely, if ever get an insight into someoneβs life when theyβre having a bad day! I donβt see Instagram pics titled βMe with really bad skin.β βMe after a wax gone wrong.β βA selfie of me cutting my toenails.β And really, truth be told, I donβt particularly want to see them either. I want my world to be filled with happy, shiny people that inspire me to do more and be more. Itβs just that I think it can be a very dangerous place for people to hide behind. Social media is a great way of letting everyone know how wonderful youβre feeling even if youβre not. You can post photos of an amazing meal, great scenery, shiny new shoes and everything looks rosy. Which is not a bad thing- if that truly is your reality.
If itβs not your reality, donβt pretend it is. Itβs okay to show weakness and vulnerability. Itβs ok to not want to speak to anyone or go anywhere. Donβt let anyone make you feel that your life is less than perfect. Because chances are theirs isnβt that great either.
Now before you get all worked up and say how hypocritical Iβm being I want you to understand that I love the power of social media. I love the way it connects us and makes the world seem so much smaller and accessible. I love the way I can share my favourite taco place on Instagram and show you how banging my new nail polish colour is. I love all that, and I love seeing it in everyone elseβs feeds too. All Iβm saying is that if you or someone you know is looking too fabulous and shiny (whether in real life or on social media) donβt be fooled into thinking thereβs nothing wrong. They may be in a dark place and just need a helping hand or a piece of chocolate. Or if you know a new mother that looks to have her shit together because sheβs always out and about looking great. Look into her eyes just that little bit longer, chances are she’s saying βHelp me, I canβt keep all this up for much longer!β
So today Iβm breaking my Inspirational quotes ban and am posting one of my favourites. Itβs the caterpillar who thinks it’s life is over- only to realise itβs not. And thatβs what I want you to remember. X
If you or someone you know may be suffering from depression please speak to someone and seek help. Beyond Blue is a great anonymous service that will lend a helping a hand or just be there to hear you talk. Beyond Blue is working to reduce the impact of depression and anxiety in the community by raising awareness and understanding, empowering people to seek help, and supporting recovery, management and resilience. Call on 1300 224 636.