Man Says He Doesn’t Care About His Ex Wife’s Baby News, Should He?

When a man’s ex contacted him to share news of her pregnancy he reacted with a simple ‘congrats.’ Then when the baby was born she demanded more than just a one word message. But he says ‘why should he care if they’re no longer together?’ Do you agree?

Writing into Reddit, the man wants to know if he reacted harshly when his ex-wife wrote to tell him about her baby news. Problem is, he doesn’t think it’s any of his business anymore and told her so. Here’s the post:

“So I (31M) got married to Emily (31F) when we were 20, and we separated at 26. Our divorce was finally finalized at 28. It was incredibly drawn out and messy as there was infidelity on her part, and she kept refusing to sign papers and wanting to work on our marriage even though she was still with the guy she was cheating with.

A few months after the divorce, I started dating my current girlfriend Sandy (30F). About 6 months ago, I became a dad for the first time, yay! Sandy and Ihad a little boy called Theo.

Anyway, I get a random message one day from Emily congratulating me on being a dad. I figured Grace probably told her, which was true, and I found out Grace even sent pictures of my son l’d sent to her to Emily!

I told Grace it’s fine if she wants to be friends with Emily but it’s not cool if she sends pictures of my newborn son to my ex-wife. Sandy was pissed too, and Grace apologised and hasn’t sent any more pictures or info don’t want shared.

Well, I thought I wouldn’t hear from Emily again until she told me about a month after my son was born that she was pregnant with the guy she left me for. All I said was a generic “congratulations” and she got mad that was all I had to say.

l just said to her we’re not in each other’s lives and that why would I really care? That kid was nothing to do with me. She tried messaging me again and I ignored her.

The other day, Emily messages me again and tells me she had a girl called Hayley. Alright, that’s cool. I offered another congratulations and
thought that’d be it.

She then started trying talking to me about us both finding happiness and becoming first- time parents within months of each other, and I honestly was not interested in talking to her.

She then asked me why I wasn’t excited for her, and I iust decided to be totally honest. I just said to her “look, it’s great you’re excited about being a mum but we’ve been divorced for years. Why are you sharing details about your baby with me? I don’t really care because you and me aren’t involved in each other’s lives anymore.” I then finally blocked her from messaging me, and I ended up getting a shitty message from my sister.

She said I was an AH for putting down Emily like that when she was trying to tell me all about her new baby. Maybe my delivery was a bit harsh, but am I really in the wrong for not caring my ex had a kid?

The poster then goes on to give updates about the situation, especially concerning his sister’s involvement.

Update: I did mention in paragraph one that Sandy is my girlfriend since a few people have commented that I’m married again. I am not, I have a girlfriend who is Sandy and who my
baby son is with.

Update 2: Grace knows Emily’s long-term bf started with an affair behind my back. She knows how awful Emily was when I was trying to get our divorce and
all about the cheating.

Update 3: people seem to be under the impression I am still talking to Emily. No, she contacted me once about her pregnancy which I responded to, and she tried a few times after but I didn’t
answer.

Update 4: to those wondering, I learnt from Grace that Emily was at least 4 months pregnant when she told me, so she did have a full-term
pregnancy, I guess.

So, in a nutshell, this guy has moved on from his ex-wife and has a new family, but she keeps trying to stay in contact by sharing her baby news. He’s been totally transparent with her by saying he wants nothing more to do with her but now his sister says he’s being mean. But is he?? Let’s see what the commenters had to say:

NTA (Not the a**hole) why would you care when she’s an ex and it’s not your kid!?

NTA, you’re actually more patient than I would be is my ex has cheated on me. Your sister shouldn’t prioritise being a good friend to your ex over being a good sister to you. She should’ve just stayed out of it and keep the friendship separate from you.

NTA. This is Emily’s way of trying to feel less guilty for being a shitty wife. She wants you to be happy for her so she can rationalize her cheating
into an “all’s well that end’s well” Grace needs to stay in her gd lane.

NTA. I don’t know why your sister is so hung up on you celebrating the offspring with the guy she cheated on you with That’s really weird behaviour, I have questions about how much your ex has actually moved on in the last 5 years, or if she still considers you as playing the part of involved bystander in her relationship that you had at the beginning of her affair. Block, and I would definitely reconsider your relationship with your sister who is enabling her
fantasy where you care.

Which side of the fence do you sit on?

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