My Husband Wants to ‘Pass on His Genetics’ to Another Woman
“He went to the appointment and made his donation – he says he didn’t do it physically. But I feel angry and cheated,” the woman says.
Parenthood presents numerous dilemmas, and frequently, the path to parenthood itself is not without its challenges. However, a recent incident has placed one woman in an extraordinarily unusual predicament involving her husband, wherein he would potentially become a father with another individual. What makes this situation even more disturbing is the reason behind it.
In a Reddit post, the woman reached out seeking guidance regarding her marital situation. She shared, “A few years ago, my husband expressed a strong desire to ‘pass on his genetics.’ We have been in a relationship for a decade and recently got married. However, he now feels unprepared to embrace fatherhood, even though he still has an urge to have a child. I share that longing, but we both acknowledge that our current circumstances are not conducive (we both carry student debt, and he only recently secured employment after being unemployed for a few months).”
Just a few days ago, my husband confessed that he had posted an advertisement on an undisclosed forum, seeking women interested in finding a sperm donor. To my astonishment, a woman responded and provided him with her contact information to arrange a meeting. He attended the appointment and made the donation, insisting that it wasn’t a physical encounter.
I am consumed by anger and a sense of betrayal. For the past week, I have been staying at a friend’s house and communicating very little with my husband. He wants us to work things out, but I can’t shake off the feeling that he has extinguished any possibility of us having a child together. I find myself plagued by nightmares of a hypothetical son emerging in the future to confront him.
Should I attempt to salvage our marriage, or would it be wiser to pursue a divorce as the best course of action?”
Commenters had OPINIONS with many saying they’re sure he’s actually cheated and is just trying to cover his tracks.
“My guess is he cheated and didn’t use protection,” said one commenter with the statement garnering hundreds of likes.
“He’s probably trying to cover his tracks in case a woman shows up at your door in a few weeks saying she’s pregnant. He already has explained the situation to you. He ‘donated’ his sperm.
“It’s amazing that he wouldn’t have discussed ANY of this with you beforehand. That’s why I’m guessing he actually cheated. I wouldn’t believe his story unless you have all the messages between the two and you’ve had a chance to speak with the woman privately. This all sounds fishy.”
Another wrote: “He made a huge life decision after you two were supposed to be partners. He broke that trust and showed zero concern about how this might impact you and your marriage.”
“You’ve invested 10 years with your husband, he makes a major decision without you. Whether he’s telling the truth or not about how this person got pregnant (or maybe she’s already pregnant and he’s covering himself?), isn’t the next decade of your life better spent finding somebody who loves you and support you and will communicate with you and will procreate with you?”