Woman Furious At Mother In Law Who Let Herself Into Their Home Uninvited
One woman says she’s furious at her MIL who recently crossed the line by letting herself into their house uninvited and unannounced.
Writing into Reddit, the woman says her MIL has “a huge problem with boundaries” and that her and her husband constantly have to deal with it.
“While I was home alone, MIL let herself into our home using the code BIL gave her when he fed our cat while we were on vacation,” the poster wrote. “He gave it to her when he couldn’t come over one day. We had no idea.”
“I don’t know if she knew we weren’t supposed to be home at that time, but I ended up staying home,” the woman says. “She and my husband planned for her to drop something off at ‘some point’ in the coming days, but they didn’t plan a specific time because if no one was home, she was going to drop it off outside the door.”
Although the woman says she knew about these plans she didn’t think her MIL would just let herself into the house.
“I sort of lost my cool,” the woman writes. “First, because I was startled and a bit scared for a second (I always know when my husband comes home by the sound of the garage).
Upon seeing her MIL standing in front of her, the poster says she was mortified and raised her voice in anger.
“I raised my voice asking why she was here, how she let herself in, then I told her she can’t just do that, and that we’re going to change the code,” she says.
“She herself was stunned by my reaction (probably because I’ve always been super nice), and tried explaining herself.”
According to her MIL she didn’t want to leave the Tupperware outside in case someone takes it.
“She is highly sensitive and kind of fragile,” the poster explained. “If my husband tells her he can’t do yet another thing for her, she will tear up and weakly say, ‘Oh, th-that’s ok …'”
“The entire family believes it’s manipulation,” the poster explained. “My husband has learned (through therapy) not to immediately cede to her when she does that.”
The worst part was when she called her son to complain about the interaction.
“She called husband crying, told him I screamed at her, insinuated she was ‘crazy,’ and made her feel ‘very, very unwelcome,'” the poster wrote. “Last part is true, but the first two are absolutely not.”
“I believe if anyone raises their voice at her, she perceives that to be ‘screaming.’ She kept on telling him he can’t let me talk to her like that.”
Luckily her husband supports her 100% but she still wonders if she was out of line to yell at her MIL like she did. What do you think? Was she wrong or would you have done the same thing?