Ask Eliza – “I Walked in on My Husband Masturbating in the Shower!”

Dear Eliza,

A few weeks ago, I went into the bathroom to get ready for work while my husband was taking a shower. We have frosted glass in the shower and although you can’t see everything clearly, I could definitely see he was masturbating. I think I had convinced myself that he doesn’t do that because we have an active sex life, but obviously I was wrong!

Now I am afraid to go in the bathroom when he is in the shower because I don’t want to “catch” him again. I also get all weirded out when he takes a longer shower than normal because I assume he’s at it again.

I worry that I might not be fully satisfying him. I’m feeling insecure about our sex life now and I just feel kind of icky about the whole thing.

What do you think? Am I freaking out over nothing?

{name withheld, Hornsby, NSW*}

Oooh, I bet you got a big shock when you walked in on him burping the worm! It sounds like he isn’t aware that you know, is that correct? You have made no mention of any awkwardness afterwards, so it seems that he is oblivious to your newfound knowledge of his slug tugging.

I really don’t think it is a big deal, to be honest. It is part of a normal, healthy sex life. Your response sounds rather normal as well. I think every woman would be hoping that they are satisfying their partner enough, and wondering exactly how normal a good wank really is.

If you feel insecure about your sex life, start by talking about it with him. You don’t have to bring up the fact that you busted him busting a nut. Ask him if he has any fantasies and take it from there. You could reach a whole new level of intimacy, both emotionally and sexually.

Have you ever considered hopping into the shower with him and having fun with it? I totally would! He might be a little shocked at first, but I’m sure he’d get over it pretty quick when he sees his hot, wet, naked woman in front of him!

So don’t sweat it. And maybe time your run a bit better so you don’t interrupt him again. Give him a little privacy!

Good luck!