Mum Says “Why Have Kids If You Can’t Even Afford Cheap Little Outfits!”

Mum Says “Why Have Kids If You Can’t Afford To Buy Them Nice Things!”
All of us at some stage or another have tried our hand at selling items we no longer want. It’s a great way to get rid of things as well as make some extra cash on the side. One mum however, is fed up with the responses she constantly receives after posting her daughter’s clothes on Facebook marketplace.
The mum-of-three took to Mumsnet to say she was fed up with trying to sell things online and having people ask her to give them away for free.
βI sell my childrenβs old clothes and bits and bobs to fund buying new ones like every other parent probably does,β she wrote.
βBut in the past month Iβve had two women message me and ask if they can have them for free as theyβre both pregnant and cant afford the items.”
βSeriously why have a baby if you canβt even afford basic baby grows and cheap little outfits?β
The mum went on to say that one particular buyer asked forΒ a cot, a microwave and blackout curtains for free.
βThen she asked could I deliver or post, and could I cover the cost as well? I felt like saying shall I come fit them too?β
Another mum made a similar request. βA lady messaged asking if I could give her all my baby items Iβm selling as she canβt afford any for her unborn son.β
These comments really seemed to infuriate the mum who says she’s not rolling in money either and only sells things to be able to afford new clothes for her kids.
βWhy do people keep asking for everything for nothing?β she asked.Β βYes times are tough at the moment and everyoneβs situation is different, but if youβre struggling now itβll only get worse because children are most certainly not cheap!β
Commenters on Mumsnet wondered whether the mum was being too quick to judge the other mums.
βPeople sometimes have babies when finances are tight,β wrote one person. βIs it always a good idea? No. Is it sometimes the least worst option for them? Yes. All sorts of things can happen during a pregnancy to make people go from financially stable to financially precarious.β
βPeople shouldnβt have kids if they canβt afford them. To ask someone you donβt know to give you something is rude,β one person said.
βPeople need to be able to look after themselves and their families. They should absolutely not set out to have children if they will not be able to feed them and buy clothes for them,β they continued.
While another commented that not everything is black and white. βIt would be lovely if it was simple, but life is all about nuance and shades of grey rather than black and white,β they wrote.
βSome people are financially stable enough to have kids, and then lose their job before the birth. Some people get pregnant by mistake and arenβt comfortable with adoption/abortion. Some people are unlikely to get pregnant due to medical issues and then manage to fall pregnant by mistake at the βwrongβ time, and take the opportunity because theyβre unlikely to conceive again.Β Some peopleβs relationships (and financial support) collapse before the birth.Β Some people donβt fully understand the financial commitment they are making.β
Most of the responses to the mum’s question centred around a woman’s right to have a baby regardless of her financial situation. With one person summing it up perfectly.Β βPeople are allowed to have children whatever their financial circumstances. Itβs not a privilege for the rich.β
Do you agree?
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