Just found out my (F 28) fiancé (M 30) inseminated his friend without my knowledge.

Long time fan of this sub, made a throwaway because me and my fiancé read this sub together. So basically I met my fiancé through a mutual friend I work with let’s call her Meghan. Meghan was not usually my type of person but I was just starting at a job and she was in a higher position than me so I felt pressured to accept when she’d ask to go out to drinks. Through her I met her male best friend since childhood let’s call him Peter and I instantly connected with him in a way I never did before.

We began dating and in the honeymoon phase all else seemed unimportant. Little did I know Meghan was getting very very upset with me this whole time as Peter was spending less time with her. It devolved into her being very rude to me at work and while she isn’t in a position that I report to she is still above me and was able to make my life harder wherever she could.

Peter still hung out with her rarely but would tell me it was just to keep her happy because she was emotionally unstable. I was always skeptical of his reasons but never assumed he was cheating because Meghan was not his type at all. He insisted it was because he didn’t want to be “on her suicide note” as the reasons she killed herself. Fast forward to today at work I haven’t seen Meghan around for a while. She comes up to me and mentions that her pregnancy has reached three months. I congratulated her but was confused because it seems like she thought that I knew she was trying for a baby when I actually did not even know that she was in a relationship. I honestly don’t know anything about her because it is such a sour topic with Peter that we never talk about her. She goes on to mention how nice it was of peter to donate for her insemination. And I start sweating and fidgeting. I kept my cool as well as I could and continued to have the usual conversation with her. Once she left I ran to the bathroom and threw up then ran to my car and cried. I felt so embarrassed and shitty so fast. Now I’m sitting in the driveway typing this and I don’t know if he’s inside. I honestly don’t know what I’d say to him I really hope this is just a sick joke. If he did this I don’t know if I could still be with him.

Wow! Let’s just let that sink in for a minute. I don’t know what’s worse here- the fact that the woman’s fiancé cheated on her or the fact that he called the ‘transaction’ a donation for her insemination? This was no donation honey…this was straight out sex and she happened to get knocked up. Plain and simple.

Luckily for us, the woman with a dog of a fiancé updated the reddit thread to let us know where things currently stand. And let’s just say things just get uglier!

Hey reddit thanks for all the messages and concerns sorry I couldn’t update last night but I was physically shaking and crying and I just didn’t have it in me.

So basically last night I went over to the apartment and Peter let me and my sister in. Immediately I could see that he was annoyed that I brought my sister. AND NOW I see why. It’s hard to admit for me but my relationship with peter has been sort of a sham. Through conversations with my sister I’ve come to the realization that I don’t value myself enough and don’t give myself what I deserve and this is most evident through Peter. Peter is a good looking guy with a good job and he’s always making people laugh when we go out but behind closed doors he’s self destructive mean and somewhat abusive. I realized this only by telling my sister about things that I thought were normal (e.g. he often slaps my hand or my head fairly hard when he’s frustrated about me doing something wrong) From the outside he seems perfect and I have always only cared about that but it’s not worth it to have a husband everyone loves if he’s so fucking mean to me. I honestly don’t care to go into detail but we talked for hours and hours and I don’t remember much but the takeaway was he cheated on me 4 times a couple months ago while I was dealing with the passing of my mom. It hurt really fucking bad and while we were talking I kind of just slowly fell into silence while my sister and him argued back and forth. There was not artificial insemination he just had sex with her and when she told him she was pregnant he said he “didn’t think she was serious” but I think that’s a lie. I feel so sick and disgusting and I’ve never felt less confident in my life. I need to stop letting people live my life for me. I’m typing this from my sisters house and I’ve DECIDED this is where I’m gonna stay until my lease is up and then I’m going to go get my things from my apartment.

So Peter cheated on this woman 4 times while she was dealing with the death of her mum! Seriously- if that’s not a red flag I don’t know what is? Luckily this woman has seen the light and left his dirty ass and if you ask us she dodged a bullet right there. Imagine producing offspring with this moron! No thanks!