Mother In Law Furious at Not Being Allowed to Sleep in Master Bedroom

A woman has been left wondering if she was in the right to refuse her MIL’s request to sleep in the master bedroom. What made it worse was she wanted to lock the door also. Would you be okay with that?

Giving a bit of background, the woman says her MIL popped over unexpectedly and wanted to spend the night which she was totally okay with. The problem was, she only wanted to sleep in the master bedroom, alone and with the door locked. The woman was NOT okay with this arrangement and told her so. Here’s her full post on Reddit:

Context: my husband (m34) and I (f26) got married 9 months ago, we live in a different town from his parents, and his mom visited us unexpectedly on friday.

Now to give some context about my MIL, She is okay-ish but has no respect for her son’s privacy and by extension, mine.

When it was time to go to bed, MIL requested that we let her sleep in the bedroom, on the master bed, not just that but lock the door as well because she explained she can’t feel comfortable enough to sleep without locking the door. I found this bizzare but I politely declined and suggeted other options like the guest room, couch and air mattress but no she turned around and presented these options to me. My husband agreed but I said no. This initiated an argument between her and I. During the argument I pointed put how I didn’t want to be keot out of my room and away from my stuff but she lashed out at my husband saying “Don’t you just stand there! Say something!”. My husband told me to let her it’s just one night, but I told her those were all the options I had for her and if she didn’t like them then I could book her in a hotel. She took it as in I was kicking her out and started crying which made my husband upset.

She left at 12am and my husband blew up saying I disrespected his mom who was a GUEST at our house and treated her poorly, he then reminded me it’s our bedroom not just mine and I acted horribly to her causing her to go stay at a hotel in the middle of the night. He went to book a room in the same hotel as her and turned his phone off. The next day she went home and told the family who berated me calling my behavior towards MIL abhorrent and loathsome, now my husband is complaining about how I keep trying to ruin his relationship with his family and push them away.

But I want to know if I was really ta?

Wowzers! That’s a doozy! To be honest, we would’ve done the same thing. Especially because of her weird need to lock the door with all the couple’s belongings inside. Commenters agreed and told the woman she most definitely was not the a**hole.

“Girl I would get a divorce asap, these kind of relationships never last for a long time. He is not able to see the disrespect his mother is giving BOTH of you guys. Run!”

“NTA. It’s creepy that she wants to sleep in the room you and your husband (her son) share. Especially with that insane amount of pushback she was giving and looking at her son to “step in” only makes this worse than it needs to be. Husband is acting like a mommas boy and needs to see his mom is totally in the wrong.”

“I’ve actually heard of this. My husbands family and some other families I know it’s tradition and considered appropriate to let the parents stay in the nicest bed (aka the master bedroom) when they visit. I shut it down cus I don’t like people in my bed and they respected that but if they don’t have a quest room I can see this being the request. Not that the behaviour is ok. it’s not and both mil and husband are completely out of line, just that it is a thing. When you said no they needed to respect that.”

“And she showed up unexpectedly just to demand to sleep in the bed her son has been (presumably) fu**ing in?? And snoop through all their stuff. And he’s just like “welp it’s what mommy wants and mean old wife is being difficult” ewww. NTA.”

“NTA but I find it bizarre that your husband went to the hotel too. Did he sleep with his mommy? So freaking weird. Neither my in-laws or parents would ask for my room. I’d tell them no. I wouldn’t want her locked in my room going through my things. Weird.”

“NTA. That’s weird. Especially when there is a perfectly good quest bedroom. She is trying to assert her authority as the main woman in your husbands life. If he doesn’t stick up for you when she is trying to kick you out of your marital bed that’s a big red flag.”

Do you agree?

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