We’re not sure what it is about getting married that turns some women into entitled brats, but we’ve read some bizarre bride stories over the years! One woman has taken to Reddit to ask if she is in the wrong for sending her friend a bill for the 300 cupcakes and other dishes her ‘friend’ asked her to make for her wedding. Whilst no price was agreed upfront, and it seems she had initially been happy to provide them for her friend, it was how the bride acted after the wedding that prompted OP to ask for recompense.

Wait until you hear what the bride said that set this fiasco in motion!

So I (32f) am a stay at home mom to 5 kids ages 13, 11, 6, 3, and 18 months. My friend let’s call her Stacey (30f) recently got married. About 6 months before her wedding she asked me to make 75 cupcakes for her wedding. Baking is a hobby of mine and I have gotten very good at it. I agreed even though I’m not part of the wedding party and was doing this as a friend. Stacey also had 5 other people helping make the food. Well she calls me 3 weeks before the wedding and asks me to make 1 hungry pan of baked beans. At this point I’m still under the impression that it is going to be a smallish wedding so I say sure. So fast forward to 1 week before the wedding and she calls me and tells me the guest list has grew slightly. She then tells me she needs 3 huge pans of baked beans and wants me to use a specific recipe instead of my own and now needed 300 cupcakes instead of 75. As well as she doesn’t want me to use box mix for the cupcakes (which I had planned to use since I’m buying all the ingredients for everything I’m making) she wants them to be homemade including the frosting. Told me I was a life saver and ended the call. Before I had a chance to say anything. So for 2 days before the wedding I was in my kitchen baking and cooking. While also taking care of my kids. So the wedding comes I take everything to the venue and helped set everything up. Fast forward to about a week after the wedding a mutual friend called me to ask about my thank you basket from Stacey. Come to find out she sent everyone a thank you basket for helping with the wedding (including the other people that helped with making the food) except me. I called her and talked with her, I figured I needed to let her know I had not gotten mine. I know that sounds entitled. I just thought since everyone else had gotten one maybe mine got lost. That’s when she told me that she never sent me one cause I’m a stay at home mom so it was no big deal for me to help with stuff for the wedding but everyone else had actual jobs so it was an inconvenience for them to help but not me.

I told her that it was hard for me to help as well and to except a bill in the mail from me. Which I did. I charged her for everything I had bought to make the food (I included copies of the receipts), a delivery fee, a set up fee, and charged her for my time to making everything. It totaled to right at $900 now I have a few mutual friends telling me I’m an AH for charging her. So AITA?

People were rightly outraged by the bride’s attitude that stay at home mums have more time than someone with ‘an actual job.’

She considered your time useless and didn’t actually account for the fact that you have to tend your children while making everything for her. It would be one thing to ask for help and show appreciation but it’s another to expect you to help regardless of any changes made and time spent. She doesn’t see you as a friend anymore, she sees you as an endless resource. (Looking4fun338)

Absolutely NTA. I am so sick of these entitled brides and grooms thinking everyone else is supposed to fund their weddings and lifestyles. How dare she think that because you are at home, you don’t work hard. At the very least she could have sent you a thank you for your effort instead of insulting you. (Sashasez)

NTA. I love it when people think stay at home moms have all kinds of free time. WHY DO YOU PAY THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS FOR DAYCRE IF LOOKING AFTER KIDS IS A BIG NOTHING?!!! (DELILAHBELLE2605)

NTA

Your “friend” is the entitled one. She disregarded your time, energy, resources, and talent. You saved her a lot of money helping her out. A basket would have been a lot cheaper for her than the bill she is now getting.

She disregarded you just because you are SAHM. She took advantage of you. Not only did she take advantage, but she also made specific demands that took more of your time & talent. Following the bean recipe, homemade cupcakes, delivery, and setup. She knew she wasn’t going to repay you and was greedy at the same time.

Your other “friends” that say you are the ah, ask them if they would put all that time and money into helping someone, ask them if they are going to help pay for it. I am betting they will say no.

Helping people out is great! Just don’t get taken advantage of by people who don’t deserve to kindness. (AITA_junkie)

Many people thought that OP should give up hope of ever seeing the money that she billed the ungrateful bride for and should move on.

NTA because she used her. Just know that the bill is not likely something you can expect to be paid for. You never asked for a fee beforehand, and you agreed to make the food without ever discussing compensation. So while she’s the asshole here, not you, I hope you understand that the bill–which was a great power move on your part–will likely just be for show in the end. She’ll never pay it. (Severe_Assignment943)

NTA.

You’re not likely to see that money, but man, she needs to be put in her damn place. You are not her personal, unpaid servant. Your time is not less valuable than anyone else’s. The entitlement is staggering and you deserve every penny of that $900 for the amount of labor you put into her wedding. (DiTrastevere)

Not everyone sided with OP though and thought sending a bill was petty and rude.

NTA, but you also just blindly agreed. I’d probably just cut my losses and cut ties with the “friend”. Billing her after the fact because she’s an AH is kind of petty. I get it in a way, but I’d just call it a lesson learned. Shes not a friend. (missbeegee)

NTA – I’m kinda on the fence here; the consensus is already looking like NTA but it does feel a bit petty to charge AFTER hearing about the basket; correct me if I’m wrong, but there was no agreement previously about payment right? Assuming it was not expected that she’d pay, it would be a bit of a rude surprise. That said she’s definitely An AH that deserved a bill from the first addition to the order and forward: she clearly under-appreciates you and the lack of a gift basket is ridiculous. In short, this feels like tit-for-tat which is always a bit rude, even if deserved; for the record, I would have done the same in the end even though I say it’s a bit rude. (JeffFerox)

YTA

If you wanted to charge her, you would have needed to tell her BEFORE doing the work, (Aggressive-Mind-2085)

What do you think? What would you have done in OP’s position?