As a mother, one of the most important things I think I can assist my children in developing is a healthy self esteem.
The collection of beliefs a child develops about themselves from a young age, will carry them through their life. Self-perceptions have a direct affect on motivations, attitudes and behaviour and significantly impact on emotional adjustment.
Some of the ways we as parents can help our children develop a healthy esteem are:
- Be a positive role model
- Praise good behaviour and efforts
- Be spontaneous and affectionate
- Provide a safe and happy home environment
With this in mind, I was appalled this morning to hear a UK mother making the headlines for all the wrong reasons.
Fifty year old Sarah Bruge, has undergone over 100 surgical procedures earning her the nickname the ‘Human Barbie.’
Unfortunately this is not the first time Sarah has attracted media attention for her parenting skills. Last year she was in the media for allowing her then 15 year old daughter to have botox, and her for teaching her six year old daughter to pole dance.
If you can stand her irritating voice, and resist the urge to throw a brick at your computer monitor at her, see her defend her fifteen year old daughters botox procedures here and explaining why pole-ercise is such a great activity for kids here.
In her latest bout of irresponsible lunacy, Bruge has celebrated her daughter’s seventh birthday with a $18,500 pamper package in which Poppy and seven friends where treated to manicures, pedicures and makeovers which also included nail varnish and hair extensions. Dolled up and pampered the girls where also given pretend champagne to sip and a $385 birthday cake.
If this isn’t enough to make your maternal toes curl and your face to contort in horror and concern for this impressionable little girl, the crowning glory of the pamper package was the presentation of a voucher to Poppy from her mother ~ for breast augmentation when she turns sixteen.
According to UK newspaper, the Daily Mail, Burge said ‘Poppy begged me for a boob job, so I gave her the voucher so she can have it after she’s 16, when it’s legal.
‘If she develops naturally big boobs, she can have something else done with it.’
She has assumed that her daughter will obviously want and need to be surgically enhanced at the tender age of sixteen! Futhermore, she plans on letting her youngest daughter Poppy watch video’s of her having more surgical proceedures for her 51st birthday, including a facelift, bottom lift and liposuction.
Not only is she sending her daughter all the wrong messages regarding her own healthy body image but she is desensitising her to the gravity of such procedures, and giving her the impression that multiple plastic surgery procedures are a normal part of life.
I can’t even find the words to express how appalled I am by this, or how damaging I think these messages are to a young girl (not without resorting to a string of expletives and insults directed at the human-barbie).
If you had a chance to meet this so called ‘mother’ what would you like to say to her about her approach to parenting her daughters?