According To Influencer Anna Bey Women Shouldn’t Say These Things If They Want To Be ‘Classy’
A woman who calls herself an ‘elegance coach’ has shared some tips on how to stay classy by following her simple rules. How many do you agree with?
Anna Bey, the Switzerland-based influencer and You Tuber shared a video about the things an “elegant lady” should never say.
“An elegant lady maintains her mystique, her discretion and her allure by never sharing these seven things and ladies, I hope you’re not sharing them too because then you would be shooting yourself in the foot,” Ms Bey said.
Never share your plans
While this may sound strange at first, the reason behind staying quiet actually makes sense.
“You’re going to have a higher chance of manifesting your goals if you actually keep it to yourself, so spare yourself from any evil-eye, toxic energy, and just generally speaking, toxic people,” she said. “Instead of spending your time talking about what you’re going to be doing, start doing.”
Never share your finances
“Discretion is a key part of being elegant,” she said. “It might sound like you’re bragging. It might look like you’re trying to be superior to others. Plus you also don’t want to become a target for people who might want to take advantage of your financial situation in a malicious way.”
Never share your love life
Anna Bey is quick to point out that each individual has to decide what’s best for them.
“I don’t think there is a right or wrong, it’s up to each individual, but in my opinion I don’t think it’s wise to give a lot of information about your love life,” Ms Bey said. “Can you really trust everyone with your secrets and imagine sharing those secrets that actually involve another person, who is also the person closest to you in your life. Now doesn’t that feel wrong or disrespectful?
“Now I don’t mind sharing some general things, let’s say about my relationship, that shows no relationship is perfect, because it’s OK to be vulnerable and it’s OK to be open up to the world and close people. But I think when it comes to the point of airing really intimate information is where I personally draw the line.”
Never share someone else’s confidential information
“Idle gossip that everyone does, that’s pretty harmless … speaking about someone in a neutral or positive way,” she said. “But then there is malicious gossip where you share someone’s confidential information or intimate details someone has shared with you and you’re now passing on as a form of entertainment to your friends.”
Ms Bey goes on to say that karma will come back to find you so be careful. “What you send out into the universe will come back to you. You also need to think about what kind of message you’re sending to other people about your behaviour.”
Never share your drama
Anna says it’s best not to let people into your dramas. Try and handle them on your own first and don’t even think about bringing your “drama” to a social event or party.
“Some people might feed on other people’s dramas and just want to bring out the popcorn and start digging in because at least they shift the focus from their own misery in life to someone else’s misery and it makes them feel temporarily good,” Ms Bey said.
Never share your controversial views
We’ve probably all had experience with this in the last few years especially but Anna recommends keeping controversial opinions to yourself.
“I’m talking about religious, political or socially taboo topics specifically,” Ms Bey said. “Elegant ladies do not approach these sensitive topics because they might offend the people around them and create a lot of friction.
“The key of elegance is to really be mindful of other people. It’s OK to share your opinions, that is not the issue, but you have to think about picking your battles and if the tone is right … think through things before you speak or at least read the room.”
Never share your good deeds
If you’re going to do a good deed, the whole world doesn’t need to know about it. Do it in private.
“We don’t do this because we’re then going to brag about it afterwards,” Ms Bey said. “We’re doing this in private because it makes us feel good and makes us feel we are contributing to society, especially when we are privileged ourselves.”
What do you think of Anna Bey’s advice? Is it something you agree with?