Grandmother Wants Grandkids To Call Her Mummy And Her Son Agrees!
When a child is born, the grandparents usually come up with a name that the grandkids can call them. Whether it’s gramma, granny, pop, gramps or just plain nan, it’s usually a straightforward decision that involves the whole family and is fun and light hearted.
Unless you have a mother-in-law from hell who doesn’t even want to be known as grandma but instead wishes to be referred to as mummy. Yep, you heard that right! She wants her grandkids to call her mum as well as calling their real mum, mum too. Confused? To make matters worse, her mummy’s boy of a husband agrees with his mum and says it’s no big deal and that his brother’s kids call her mummy as well!
The poor woman wrote into Reddit asking for advice on how to handle this shit storm.
“Holy (expletive), is your MIL for real???” one person commented. “She absolutely does NOT get to be called mommy, and your husband really sucks for not supporting you on this. Not only that, but she is in turn demanding that she gets to pick your mother name as well. Not okay.”
“GOD that’s weird,” another wrote. “She obviously wants to have equal footing with your kid — watch TFO for this woman.”
“Tell your husband if she wants to be Mommy, she can birth some new children,” a third person wrote. “Tell your husband that outside his circle, this is abnormal. Names and roles exist for a reason. By definition, she is a grandmother. Ask him why she wants to be specifically called Mommy.”
“It sounds like some kind of family tradition for them and that’s ok but it doesn’t obligate you to be comfortable with it or to play along,” said one person.
One commenter said that she should at least wait until she’s pregnant and has kids before getting so heated. But I don’t know, these kind of opinions tend to set the standard of things to come. I mean if this MIL is asking to be called mummy ‘before’ the grandchild is even conceived, can you imagine what her list of demands will be once the child is ‘actually’ born?
“This is just such a stupid argument,” the person commented. “You don’t have kids yet so it’s not actually an issue and you’ve even said this would STOP you from having kids?! That’s ridiculous. From my experience, kids tend to call their grandparents whatever the parents call them. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill. When and if you get pregnant suggest some other grandma titles to your Dear Husband and try to work on this constructively.”
Most comments were in the woman’s favour and basically called out the MIL for the monster she is. After reading all the pieces of advice the future mum says she felt a whole lot better. “It bothered me a lot until I posted it here and now I don’t feel as crazy for disagreeing with him,” she wrote later in the thread. “I personally think she wants to be mommy because her mom took that title from her,” she added. “Its only MIL / MIL mother / and MIL brothers and sisters that do this.”
What do you think of this demand? Would you be okay with your child calling grandma, mum?