Being a mum can turn your world upside down. You end up so busy doing the many many things that go with motherhood, that you feel like your past life has disappeared or that you are trapped without any time for you and what you want.
It doesn’t have to be that way!
It’s really just a matter of managing the process. Finding a way to achieve your goals even though you have a lot on your plate.
Being a mum shouldn’t mean you have to give up on you and the reality is that you don’t.
I have worked with thousands of people across the globe, schoolkids, executives, sports people, mums, dads and people from all walks of life that feel they are stuck in a rut, have lost their way or don’t feel motivated. Sound familiar?
Here is the process that I get them to work through. This is the same process I have used my entire life to make improvements in various parts of my life. A process that has helped me achieve many amazing things such as retiring at 34, climbing MT Kilimanjaro (the worlds highest freestanding mountain) running marathons and triathlons, losing 19kgs in 90 days, learning a second language, building 5 businesses and heaps of other things both large and small.
The important thing about this process, is that it’s about progress. Creating a consistent methodology for getting what you really want out of life, both the very simple and the very complex. So that your life is continually getting better as you go forward and you can look back and see the progress you have made.
It’s an ideal process for mums, both young and old and can be used time and time again to improve your health, your finances, your relationships or any other aspect of your life.
This process is called the 90-day challenge
Why 90 days?
Because 90 days is enough time to show some results but not too far off to get lost in the daily grind. 90 days means you can do this 4 times a year. If you complete 4 significant changes in your life every year you cant help but start to live the lifestyle you have always imagined.
Here’s how it works.
1. DECIDE and COMMIT
Choose one thing and just one thing only. In a busy world its hard to do everything on the to do list and the important things often get lost or left by the wayside. So just choose one thing. Lose 5kgs, run a marathon, climb a mountain. Whatever it is, decide and commit to just that one thing for 90 days.
2. BE CLEAR
Describe the result that you want in 90 days as clearly as possible. The more detailed the picture of what you want to achieve the more likely it will become real. What your mind can picture, your body can create. Poor picture equals poor result.
3. BE REAL
If its not important it won’t get done. So come up with 3 clear reasons why you simply must achieve this goal. These reasons must be strong and well founded because they are what’s going to keep you going when the going gets tough, when you feel like everything is going off the rails. These three whys will get you back on track by reminding you that you simply must get this done. There is no other option.
4. BE ACTIVE
Next you need to create an action plan. What are the key things that need to be done in the next 90 days? Three good solid actions are what I work with and he backs these up with clear deadlines or milestones. This allows me to break the bigger goal down into smaller key steps and measure the progress. If we miss a deadline or milestone, we need to review and refine and reset. This gives you momentum that pushes you toward smashing the goal.
5. BE HUMBLE
One clear mistake that people make in setting goals, is they forget to consider the support available and the obstacles they come up against. Pretty much every goal you are likely to want to achieve has probably been completed by someone else at some time. Do your research, find out what works best. Get some help if need be. Find out as much information as you can. There are few things worse than stumbling blindly in pursuit of a goal that you don’t understand. If need be buddy up with someone that will help you out or get a mentor. Also define the obstacles that might get in the way, lack of time, resources, motivation or assistance and plan for these, so that when you hit the speed bump you are not thrown off the chase, you can just readjust and keep pushing forward.
6. BE BOLD
That’s it, now get cracking, get stuck in, go at it hard, its only one thing and its only 90 days, you can do it. Execute on each of the actions, meet the deadlines and milestones and then watch as you knock your goal out of the park. Then stack your next 90 day achievement on top of this one and then repeat again. Before you know it you will be achieving more, being more, doing more and have more than you ever imagined. The lifestyle you have always wanted.
Rowdy’s book “Play a Bigger Game” is a must read for mums from all walks of life, it walks you through the 90 day challenge in detail step by step and also adds the “can do and “follow through” for you to get what you really want out of life. You can buy the book “play a bigger game online at www.rowdy.com.au, online and in all good book stores.
You can get daily motivation on Rowdys facebook page Play a Bigger Game with Rowdy and also connect with him on twitter @rowdymclean