New Mum Upset At Friend For Visiting Her In Hospital Wearing A Crop Top!
A woman who recently went to visit her friend and new baby in hospital was mortified to discover that her choice in outfit caused the new mum to burst into tears!
Taking to an online discussion forum, the friend wrote this post explaining exactly how the events unfolded.
The poster said she felt the visit went quite well until she received a text message from a mutual friend telling her how insensitive she was to visit Hannah wearing a crop top and leggings.
“She had gone to visit Hannah a few hours after me,” the woman explained. And apparently, the new mum felt upset because she was “rubbing it in” by wearing a crop top.
“I was wearing a cropped T-shirt and high-waisted leggings (like this) and I was sitting or her sofa the whole time, so there wasn’t even any skin visible,” the woman said “My body type is average so there isn’t much to show off either.”
In fact their mutual friend agreed with the new mum and told her she really should’ve chosen a more appropriate outfit to go and see the baby.
“I asked [my mutual friend] if [the new mum] was really upset with me and she said that she’d have probably been hurt too,” the woman shared. “[Our mutual friend] has a toddler and she told me that wearing a crop top to see your friend that soon after having a baby is insensitive because it can be hard to adjust to your new body.”
“I know some of our other friends will have visited yesterday and I don’t know if the crop top thing came up,” the woman continued. “It didn’t seem like a big deal to me, but it made Hannah cry so it’s obviously a big deal to her.”
Clearly the new mum had lots of hormones running through her body which would’ve made her extra teary, but was a crop top really a reason to get upset? Especially when it’s s good friend of yours who wouldn’t have meant any malice?
“Oh my god, your friends are wild sensitive,” one commenter wrote. “Just because they feel insecure about their bodies doesn’t mean they get to dictate what everyone else wears.”
“[New Mum] was upset and confided in a friend who just happened to be there while she was upset,” the commenter wrote. “[Mutual Friend] then ran around complaining to Original Poster, calling OP insensitive and making it a whole thing. By all accounts New Mum and OP had a nice visit and chatted for several hours. Not sure how New Mum could be seen as the [expletive] here at all.”
“That’s just hormones,” a third commenter stated. “Not worth stressing about.”
There were a couple of people however who sided with the mum saying the friend should have considered the mum’s feelings when deciding on an outfit to wear.
“You should’ve been conscious of your friend’s perspective and feelings,” one person wrote. “I know it’s your body and you can dress how you want but holy s–t, that’s just common decency.”
While another person had this truth bomb to say:
“If you were stopping by before or after a workout then I guess it’s understandable, but if it’s just something you threw on you could have been more sensitive. You know when you wear tight pants and a crop top that it is a little sexier than sweats or a maternity gown. And her husband is there and is going to look at you which, let’s be honest, is probably what you wanted. You are one of two women in your friend group of six w/ no kids. Maybe that feels good to you that your body isn’t trashed by childbirth. If you do have a child, you will see your body is all messed up, and in pain and not only are you overwhelmed taking care of the baby, the thought of your husband ever being attracted to you again or even having sex or intimacy feels like it will never happen again. Then the raging hormones on top of that, lack of sleep, it is rough, please don’t come around in your skimpy outfits.”
Wow! That’s a dump right there!
The poster updated her post later saying she didn’t feel bad about her outfit choice at all. “Hannah is probably very hormonal and vulnerable and seemingly innocuous things might cause some tears,” she wrote. “She’s not the [expletive] either and I haven’t had any negative vibes from her directly. She’s probably too busy with her newborn to be stuck on my cheap Primark T-shirt!”
“She should have been more tactful in letting me know,” the poster wrote. “The hormonal aspect had definitely crossed my mind, but I didn’t want to downplay Hannah’s feelings as ‘just hormones’ if that makes sense? I’m not going to dwell on it, or talk abut it unless she brings it up herself.”
She concluded by saying although she felt she did nothing wrong, she will make better choices in her outfits when visiting her friend from now on. “I have other clothes and it’s not worth upsetting one of my best friends over.”