Bride Gets Dragged After Forcing Her Sister Out of Her Childfree Wedding
A new bridezilla has emerged waving her crazy flag high and proud. She is furious that her sister has “bailed” just two days before her childfree wedding and wants to know if she’s in the wrong for getting mad about it.
Well, I’m sure anyone would be upset if a member of their family backed out two days before the big event, right? Oh, but that’s not actually the full story, and it is not the sister that is in the wrong in this scenario as we soon come to find out.
Please enjoy this wedding-themed family drama as explained by the furious bride on Reddit:
We planned a child-friendly wedding as my siblings both have kids. My brother has 2 girls and my sister has a son. My nephew has social anxiety disorder, has been diagnosed and is in therapy (something to do with his dad). He’s 9 and the anxiety is pretty bad, and manifests in tantrums and crying, so I planned a child-friendly wedding knowing my sister had no one to leave him with.
Today my fiance came to me and said that his family, who we had planned the entire thing around, don’t want kids at the wedding. They’re all over 18, they want to drink, and “not have to worry about brats running around” (his dad’s exact words) and they were threatening to not come. I felt backed into a corner and posted in the siblings group chat “the in-laws are saying they don’t want kids there and saying they won’t come. Can y’all sort something else out?”
Woah, hold up. He said what about her nieces and nephew? Brats? This is the part where most of us would tell the father in law to get stuffed, but not this bride. Nope, she sided with her awful in-laws and kicked the kids out!
After a couple of minutes, my brother said his wife offered to look after my nieces. I thanked him. My sister then said “is there any way I can still bring him? I’ll stay with and make sure he behaves.” My brother then said “if [nephew] can come then I want [nieces] back in, [sister in law] is upset she’s missing it”. I then said, “no, no kids, in-laws are getting shitty about it.”
My sister says “I’ve got no one to leave [nephew] with so I’m really sorry and I’ll see you when you get back from honeymoon”.
I got really mad because it’s in 2 days and my sister is now bailing on me so I reply “babysitter, neighbour, BF?”
How helpful. As if the sister hadn’t already thought of those options yet.
She says that he isn’t comfortable enough to be babysat by someone, he’s pissed off or weirded out the neighbours with his tantrums and anxiety, and he’s not comfortable enough with her boyfriend to leave the two of them alone, and she’s sorry she can’t make it but if I’m doing childfree then she can’t go.
I say “I can’t believe you’re missing my wedding because your kid is antisocial” and she replied, “I can’t believe you’re changing the plan last minute when you know I can’t leave him with someone.” Then she says “I’m staying home. @ [brother] if you can drop [nieces] here then I can watch them while [sister in law] goes with you, but [nephew] needs to be with me.”
Wait, she just insulted her nephew on account of his mental illness? Not cool, lady, not cool.
I say “are you fucking kidding me? It’s not my call to get rid of the kids so IDK why you’re making me feel like shit for it. I’m getting married in 2 days, and if it’s between the kids and the in-laws, then in-laws win.” Sister says “fair enough, your day, but we’ve clearly got different priorities” and then went offline.
I’ve not said anything since. I’m annoyed because this isn’t my choice, it’s my in-laws who are being weird about having kids there. Brother took my sister up on her offer so now he and my sister in law are coming, but not my actual sister. I just want the day to go smoothly and instead they’re having a go at me.
Oh gosh, I wonder why they are having a go at her! This woman absolutely had a choice. And she chose to pander to her controlling in-laws instead of standing up for her own family.
The backlash to her post was swift and merciless. Reddit user ensanguine summed it up pretty nicely: “YTA. It IS your choice. You chose to bow down to your in-laws at the expense of your sister and changed the circumstance of the wedding to something she couldn’t be a part of. She was going based on being able to be with her child. Also YTA again for insulting a fucking kid for their mental illness that I can assure you, no one wants. Huge asshole move.”
User PaddyCow backed that up, adding, “Just look at the title ‘my sister bailed on my wedding’. Your sister didn’t bail on your wedding op, you bailed on your own family to please a bunch of inlaws who refer to your nieces and nephews as brats. YTA big time. I’ve a feeling the op won’t accept that though and will continue to see the sister as the unreasonable one.”
Good luck with your marriage, lady. Your new husband’s family know that you’re a pushover with no boundaries at all and will ensure they will have complete control over you and your future children for many years to come.
Source: r/Am I The Asshole