A mum has been criticised online for ‘attending’ to her daughter’s eye brows while she sleeps. A letter explaining the reasons behind her actions was sent to discussion forum REDDIT where the mum confessed to plucking her toddler’s eye brows as she felt they were turning into a unibrow.
The mum said that over the last few months, her 15-month-old’s “unibrow” had gotten out of control.
While the anonymous mum says her daughter had “always been hairy” it was just in the last few months that she had noticed the hair getting darker and more prominent. Something which started to concern her as she didn’t want her daughter to be sporting a monobrow.
“For aesthetic reasons, I decided to pluck it while she slept,” she wrote. “If she woke up I would stop. I managed to get it all off in a couple days.”
Plucking her daughter’s seemed like no big deal to the mum until a friend of hers noticed the groomed eye brows and questioned her. When she admitted to tweezing them while she slept, the friend “had this horrified look and said she was surprised that I did that.”
After questioning her actions, the mum decided to open the discussion up to see if others felt what she was doing was wrong. Some people agreed with the mum’s friend saying plucking an infant’s eyebrows was the wrong choice.
“You’re seriously applying adult beauty standards to a child — a baby in fact,” one commenter wrote. “The kid’s unibrow make ZERO difference to her experience as a baby, but her mom pulling out her hairs one by one because she isn’t pretty enough is going to carry a lifetime of complications.”
“You said it, ‘aesthetic reasons.’ It took you two days of her waking up while you caused her pain for no reason except your own vanity. Narcissistic much?” another person commented.
“Just some food for thought, I have super low self esteem due to my mom constantly tweezing, bleaching (hair & teeth), picking, prodding, and fussing over my appearance my entire childhood,” added another commenter. “You’ll be teaching your kid to hate her natural existence and she will feel the effects for the rest of her life.”
While some commenters saw nothing wrong with a bit of baby grooming. “I’m sure I’ll get downvoted for this opinion, but it’s your baby,” another said. “If she’s not waking up, she’s obviously okay. I have no kids so maybe I’m the (expletive) for thinking this way, but she will be teased once she gets to school age. If you do it now, you’re building a pain tolerance for later.”
“People (myself included) treat their babies for things like cradle cap or infant acne all the time, which, if your baby dislikes baths, is probably considerably more unpleasant to them than being divested of a few hairs in their sleep,” added someone else. “Ask your pediatrician and if they’re not bothered by it, I say go ahead guilt free. Revisit when the kiddo is old enough to express their own opinion.”
“I’ve legitimately never seen so much insanity in a thread in my life,” one user wrote. “Guess what? Babies get haircuts. It’s aesthetic. Babies get put in cute clothes. It’s aesthetic. Apparently children have to dress and look 110 percent utilitarian until they’re old enough to dress themselves, or they will literally be scarred for life. Getting a bath is probably more uncomfortable for the baby than this. She did it while the baby was asleep for God’s sake.”
The mum added a comment at the end of the discussion thread saying she felt okay with the decision as her daughter wasn’t old enough to consent anyway. “She’s still a baby. She can’t consent to anything. That’s why she has parents to make choices for her. Once she can verbalize her thoughts, I will take them into consideration. Right now she isn’t even two…so don’t I necessarily have to use my own judgment??”
What do you think? Is a bit of baby grooming okay?