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Woman Asks For Her Money Back After Couple Decide Not To Go Through With IVF

Woman Asks For Her Money Back After Couple Decide Not To Go Through With IVF


Struggling with infertility is something you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy. Dealing with the pain of not being able to fall pregnant naturally is truly heartbreaking. So when a loved one asks for money to help them on their fertility journey it’s only natural to dig into your pockets and give. But what happens when after the money is collected they no longer decide to go through with IVF? Are you entitled to get your money back?

One woman has found herself in this exact predicament after donating to a family member’s GoFundMe account which she created in order to start in vitro fertilisation. And as anyone knows, IVF is very expensive so any form of donation/help is greatly appreciated and needed.

Everything seemed okay and the couple had raised a substantial amount of money to begin their IVF journey. Except halfway through, the couple decided they were no longer going to be heading down that path. The woman decided that it isn’t “God’s plan” for her to get pregnant and has no plans to return the money she raised online. Now the poster who donated the money, wrote to Reddit asking for advice on whether or not she’s entitled to get her money back.

Reddit post

“She’s decided that having kids might not be in the cards for her after all. Not even adoption. She isn’t looking into adoption because she really just wanted her kid,” the Redditor wrote. “She said that she isn’t intending to return the money, because if she had gotten to $10K she WOULD have done in vitro. Note, there was no clause in the GFM that if she didn’t reach her goal that the $ would be refunded, that I am aware of,” the poster wrote.

So, the question remains. What happens to all the money she raised?  “Am I wrong here?” the woman asked others on Reddit.

Commenters were quick to support her saying she’s not wrong at all. “Not the A–hole — you donated for one specific reason, not so they could pocket the money,” one person wrote.

“She has to spend it with respect to the terms she promised when it was given to her. A GoFundMe is an agreement, and she isn’t holding up her end of the agreement. You should get your money back,” another agreed.

While another quite simply stated, “She committed fraud.”

There were those who felt asking for the money back was in poor taste and that she should just let it go- consider it a gift of sorts.

“Let it go. This is not a hill you want to die on, especially since you don’t need the money,” another said. “They are having to come to terms with a terrible loss, and you are going to come off as the bad guy to everyone.”

“You’re the A–hole,” someone else agreed. “Awfully tacky on your part asking for the money back.”

“I would think of it as a gift to them,” a third person wrote.

What do you think? Is the couple obliged to return the money donated to them? The intention of the GoFundMe campaign WAS for IVF and now that is not happening. Perhaps the money will be used to help with adoption if they change their minds? What would you do?


Chrystal Lovevintage

Chrystal Lovevintage

Chrystal is a writer and blogger who loves nothing more than watching back to back episodes of crime shows. Should she ever find herself needing to cover up a crime, she'll know exactly what to do! Her dream is to one day live in Palm Springs where she can do her writing poolside while drinking endless gin and tonics. Mum to the cutest twin boys in the world, she loves nothing more than the sound of their laughter (usually heard when they're conspiring against her). Entertainment writer and pop culture junkie, she will be bringing you all the celebrity gossip and news that your brain can handle. You can follow her blog at and on Instagram at Chrystalovevintage

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