I have it and sometimes I wish I didn’t. The urge to have another baby. I generally feel the urge more when the kids are nice, or I am cuddling them and they are asleep and adorable. However when they are naughty (and this could be at any point of the day now) I think how stupid I was for ever thinking of having another baby.
Having an extra person in the family requires more money, space and many other things, like a bigger car. All these extras requires more money. I would love to say a blanket yes, however we don’t have money or the space currently so the answer is no, and that makes me sad.
One other concern is that I am not sure that my body is ready to do it all again. I know what is in store and not sure if I can do that again. I am trying so hard to lose the extra weight and it is four years since the twins were born and still not at the ideal weight or physical fitness that I would like to be at. Mind you, I have been caring for the girls so it is hard to just take off and exercise or keep up with a training plan.
Another concern about my body is my bits that are associated with having the baby to begin with might not cope with having another baby bounce around in there for months and then be yanked out. Maybe the twins have now allow me to not have a 30 plus hour labour but not liking the chances; having a Caesar might be the way to go if I ever do it a third time, still not sure about that at all (if it has to be it has to be).
I do want an extra bundle of joy but I think circumstances and age might get in the way of that. Once we are ready due to circumstances I fear I will no longer be able. Do you have that worry? Or are you content with your family size the way it is.
I am very grateful and blessed to have had twins the first time around and if I never ever have any more children they are the light of our lives. I am content, however I just have this niggle and urge that we need to do it again. Could it be hormones? I thought we would be fine with two kids, I did plan on having one and look what happened.
It is a pity I cannot get the hubby to do the third child, I would hold is hand and tell him it is o.k. He told me to pretend I was blowing out candles on a cake when I was having the twins. Now when he is in pain I tell him to picture blowing out candles on a cake. (Add wicked laugh!) What did you do? Have you followed the urge? Or not? If not did you regret it, or think it was all for the best. Send in your comments.
I am ex career girl (well still a career girl, but not in the office and getting paid), I have worked for the ABC (Australian Broadcasting Corporation), News Ltd.’s, CareerOne.com.au as a producer and lots more.
I am a mother to four year old identical twin girls, who keep me very busy. On top of looking after the girls, I have finished a master’s degree in project management and keen to graduate, I blog on my blog “Mummy to Twins”, I attempt to keep the house clean and tidy, and I try to fit in some me time as well.