“It Shows a Complete Disregard For Me and is Really Selfish of Him.”
A woman has shared the ridiculous and borderline abusive reason her husband wakes her up in the middle of the night. And no, it has nothing to do with the baby!
Writing into Reddit, one woman says her husband wakes her up so she can tell him the time. Not because he needs to get up for anything, but just because he wants to.
Now the woman is questioning whether she’s over reacting: “Am I the a**hole for calling my husband out on this? Without fail every time my (29f) husband (37m) wakes up in the middle of the night he wakes me fully up to ask me what time it is.”
She says he’s continued to do this a few times a week even though she’s asked him many times to stop.
“Both of us sleep with our phones charging next to our beds,” she adds. “So, it’s just as easy for him to reach out and check the time on his own phone as it is for him to wake me up and ask me.”
Now this is where it starts to sound border line abusive. You have a phone to check, yet you wake up your wife?
“We both work full-time jobs and have an infant. I do 100 percent of the nighttime baby duties because my husband commutes farther than I do. So, he says it just makes sense for me to let him sleep since he has to be out the door before I do in the mornings.”
To make matters worse, he can’t understand why she’s making such a big fuss about it. The woman says it’s not the waking up that bothers her, but rather the stupid reason for it. “Waking me up for something meaningless that he can do for himself with less effort than he expends asking me shows a complete disregard for me and is really selfish of him. My complaint is strictly that HE wakes me up to ask me what time it is. I feel like he’s being really selfish. Sometimes, I just want to sleep too.”
Oh, we hear you! And hell yes he’s being insensitive. In fact we wouldn’t have put it so eloquently.
Commenters on Reddit did not hold back when telling the woman what they thought either.
“Wake him up every time the baby cries and ask if the baby is crying. Let’s see how he likes it.”
“Being woken up in the middle of the night is no small thing,” said another. “This is so mind-bogglingly inconsiderate that I have trouble believing it isn’t on purpose to mess with her sleep.”
“My stomach is in knots,” wrote one concerned commenter. “He is torturing you. My abusive ex used to keep me sleep-deprived. He’s got you convinced this is a small thing you’re blowing out of proportion but it’s insidious.”
“This broke my heart. Even if it happened once in a blue moon, he is a major a**hole. But the fact that he does this consistently, and despite you telling him not to, means he is doing it on purpose.”
“I don’t know if it’s control, sadism, or what, but it’s so much more than him just being selfish or too lazy to check himself.”
One thing is for certain in this situation, that is one very large red flag!